Ok. Two friends, a couple. E and J. E cheated on J a few months back. It was a big thing and they broke up for a while. Things did not work out for E so after some talking, E and J got back together. I was there to give advice to both of them during that time, and I tried not to take sides. But now E has become extremely jealous and starts fights with J often for very trivial reasons. Last time they were waiting for a bus and this Lesbian told J he was cute and if she was straight she would gladly go out with him. E got so jealous he pulled J away and started accusing J of wanting to sleep with the lesbian. I mean, like this was crazy. And there I was in the middle of that mess. Both of them are my friends and I love them, but how can i stay partial when one of them is clearly wrong? How can I make E see he is going to lose J if he continues to behave like an idiot? How without losing the friendship of one or both?
My friends keeps putting me in the middle of their problems and I find it hard to remain partial?
The problem about getting involved in the chaos of other peoples lives EVEN those we care about is that it attracts that same chaotic mess into yours. If E looses or keeps J it is up to him only. The hardest and best thing anyone can do for a friend is have faith in them to find their own way. I am not saying stop caring but actually care about them more by knowing that they can see the truth as easily as you can. If they ask for help remind them of the times in their lives that they have been strong, kind, and wise. Don't get pulled into what is going wrong but be a beacon of what is right about both of them. If you talk to J tell J all the things you admire and like about J. If you talk to E remind E of all the things you see in E. If they want to bag on the other just listen remember you have free will to feel about J and E any way you want. J and E will work out there own thing and if you are a lighthouse for them in the storm they will do it in the best way possible and really love you for it.
Reply:Take them to a councilor to discuss their problems.
Reply:You only get in the middle of something you ALLOW yourself to get inthe middle of next time don't...stand up for yourself "Say I am sorry but I am not getting involved. I want to remain both your friends and I do not want to be inthe middle."
Reply:Maybe you should explain to the both of them that they are both being childish and their relationship is in need of some serious professional help before one or the other destroys any hope pf happiness. Their relationship does not seem healthy by any means and you should spare yourself the heartache of dragging yourself through it with them!
Reply:Stand up for urself, and tell them that ur not getting involved in it. It is there problem, and if u get involved, it will only cause problems in ur life. Personally, I think that they shouldn't have gotten back together, that was a big mistake on their part, and now they are suffering for it. If you want to be their friend, don't get involved, cause u might end up loosing one or both of them, as a friend.
Reply:E and J need to give it up anyway. That relationship has failure written all over it. As for YOU, you need to get some temper with them and tell them enough is enough - it is not your job to mediate.
Also, I think J needs to get with a Peter and a Bobby and have a threesome. That way it'd be P,B and J. :)
Reply:stop being partial. let the one whos wrong know whats up.
Reply:I think you mean impartial...
Tell them to work it out, and not to involve you. Lock them in a small room together, until they work it out.
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Why cant i find real friends these days evey one all ways want more then that?
when you ask to be friends they want more then that and if they do say ok we can be friends they dont really mean it because they be wanting to have sex friends dont do friends not real ones anyway
Why cant i find real friends these days evey one all ways want more then that?
I am sorry to be the one to tell you this, but men in your age group, I mean by this 14 to 99, mostly talk to a woman because they want to have sex with her.
There are exceptions, but I mean overall the trend would be if he is calling you on the cell phone its because he wants a friend with benefits or a girlfriend or something like this.
I've had friends like that, "friends", I wanted to go to bed with them, yeah, one girl it was like 7 years of back and forth and flirting and it was always out there,
I shagged her baby, shagged her rotted.
Men are dogs. I'm sorry to break it to you,
the way we operate, I think, and this is general, is we find a woman attractive we try and see if she is intelligent and half way personable and fun to get along with, try and sleep with her, and proceed from there.
I'm sorry, men are dogs. You can find one who might be ideal and all that and have a wonderful relationship with that man, and marry and all that.
If it werent for the mechanism of the dog programming it wouldn't get to that point thou.
Reply:if you can dream it, it will become truth,
on that day call yourself, Uber Wise,
until that day my answer shall be picked. Report It
Reply:You can be friends with married men. :) Of course, not all married men are decent, so select cautiously.
I think this concept of being friends is just rare in the US. In Europe, you see men and women being friends just fine. There's more respect between men and women, and people get to know each other well as friends, so if you are not compatible as a couple (just having a relationship without sex), then you remain as friends anyway. Good luck!
Reply:As a guy, I know that if a hot girl wants to be friends with me, I will say ok becuase I assume that after she gets to know me she will start to like me. The reason you want be friends with guys, as opposed to girls, where there is no risk of relationship, is that you like the sexual tension. For you, it is just fun having that extra spark, but for a guy, the sexual tension just keeps building until he has to go for it. its a tough situation though. good luck
Reply:You need to make friends with girls not boys.
Reply:There are people in the world that are desprate, and they have met people that don't just want to be friends, so they expect you to be the same way. But just keep on looking, there are people int he world that want to take it by friendship, not by sex.
Reply:that a really hard question to anwser considering the fact that i have the same problem its not easy being beautiful is it hun well i read one of the anwsers and it said that you should make friends with girls not guys but im bi so i have problems with both and well i have said every thing i have to say so hope it was a little help take it for wat it is love,beth email:scary_gothic_chic@yahoo.com
Why cant i find real friends these days evey one all ways want more then that?
I am sorry to be the one to tell you this, but men in your age group, I mean by this 14 to 99, mostly talk to a woman because they want to have sex with her.
There are exceptions, but I mean overall the trend would be if he is calling you on the cell phone its because he wants a friend with benefits or a girlfriend or something like this.
I've had friends like that, "friends", I wanted to go to bed with them, yeah, one girl it was like 7 years of back and forth and flirting and it was always out there,
I shagged her baby, shagged her rotted.
Men are dogs. I'm sorry to break it to you,
the way we operate, I think, and this is general, is we find a woman attractive we try and see if she is intelligent and half way personable and fun to get along with, try and sleep with her, and proceed from there.
I'm sorry, men are dogs. You can find one who might be ideal and all that and have a wonderful relationship with that man, and marry and all that.
If it werent for the mechanism of the dog programming it wouldn't get to that point thou.
Reply:if you can dream it, it will become truth,
on that day call yourself, Uber Wise,
until that day my answer shall be picked. Report It
Reply:You can be friends with married men. :) Of course, not all married men are decent, so select cautiously.
I think this concept of being friends is just rare in the US. In Europe, you see men and women being friends just fine. There's more respect between men and women, and people get to know each other well as friends, so if you are not compatible as a couple (just having a relationship without sex), then you remain as friends anyway. Good luck!
Reply:As a guy, I know that if a hot girl wants to be friends with me, I will say ok becuase I assume that after she gets to know me she will start to like me. The reason you want be friends with guys, as opposed to girls, where there is no risk of relationship, is that you like the sexual tension. For you, it is just fun having that extra spark, but for a guy, the sexual tension just keeps building until he has to go for it. its a tough situation though. good luck
Reply:You need to make friends with girls not boys.
Reply:There are people in the world that are desprate, and they have met people that don't just want to be friends, so they expect you to be the same way. But just keep on looking, there are people int he world that want to take it by friendship, not by sex.
Reply:that a really hard question to anwser considering the fact that i have the same problem its not easy being beautiful is it hun well i read one of the anwsers and it said that you should make friends with girls not guys but im bi so i have problems with both and well i have said every thing i have to say so hope it was a little help take it for wat it is love,beth email:scary_gothic_chic@yahoo.com
If you've never had friends and you find a female friend, should you get close to her?
if i like her and she's not taken, should i get close to her or wait to meet another girl and let the first girl be my just a friend. I say this because some people have said that it's important to have female friends. And i'm 26 already, and i think i will start having friends of any kind at 30, 32, 35.. something like that. since i'm not an outgoing person and don't generally meet anyone cause i don't go anywhere where there is young people.
If you've never had friends and you find a female friend, should you get close to her?
Buddy if you have feelings for her, then go for it, you can make good female friends through her later on, if you are looking for the one to settle down with, ask her out and give it a shot, and if it doesnt work out then just try to make things amicable and stay friends....you can always have both.
Reply:im 19 years old...is it ok?? %26lt;hehe%26gt; ^^,
Reply:you can never have enough real friends, female or otherwise. and if it's going to be more than that, it'll happen.
wisdom teeth
If you've never had friends and you find a female friend, should you get close to her?
Buddy if you have feelings for her, then go for it, you can make good female friends through her later on, if you are looking for the one to settle down with, ask her out and give it a shot, and if it doesnt work out then just try to make things amicable and stay friends....you can always have both.
Reply:im 19 years old...is it ok?? %26lt;hehe%26gt; ^^,
Reply:you can never have enough real friends, female or otherwise. and if it's going to be more than that, it'll happen.
wisdom teeth
So hard to find good friends. I feel soooo alone, how would you do!!!!?
I’m not a shy person, very sociable and friendly indeed. I used to have quite a few friends from school but we were never closed friends. I’m 23 but feel much older – from my personality to my perspective in life. Therefore, I never felt really fit-in with the friends of my age. I can hang out with them, but deep inside I feel very empty. I don’t feel I can relate to them so that I could share my feelings or thoughts with them. Slowly I just started losing everyone’s contact. I have some older friends too but most already married and occupied by their family times.
Weekdays are quite ok since I’m busy with work and all. But weekends are usually the worst. I’ve been trying to do things I enjoy or need to do, like working out, housework, cooking, etc. but nothing really helps. My family is gone all day long on Sunday at church. I tried that too but I guess I can’t force myself into something I’m not ready yet. I tried doing things and going places by myself but it's still depressing!
So hard to find good friends. I feel soooo alone, how would you do!!!!?
I think you should volunteer somewhere. Maybe go to a second hand shop and ask if they need help. I work in a second hand shop once a month with my mom and there goes one saturday.
And sunday go to church. I go and the people are so nice. Some church's people don't reach out then just try another church till ya find one right for you.
Someone moved around here and he has already been to like 3 differant people's houses from church.
God loves you... see what the pastor has to tell you about him.
Reply:Yea, i TOTALLY understand. I mean, my "friends" hate me just because i'd rather play soccer with the guys than just sit aroung and talk about guys.They just fantasise when i actually make it happen.they call me a slut becaue they think im trying to immpress them.it's not my intention to make them like me, it just happens!i hate those girls so much.i actually have one true friend.she's my neighbor.we r 4 days apart and we look like each other!try to find someone like that.try talking to some people close to your age on your street and remember,friends and relationships can't be perfect.E-mail me back!
Weekdays are quite ok since I’m busy with work and all. But weekends are usually the worst. I’ve been trying to do things I enjoy or need to do, like working out, housework, cooking, etc. but nothing really helps. My family is gone all day long on Sunday at church. I tried that too but I guess I can’t force myself into something I’m not ready yet. I tried doing things and going places by myself but it's still depressing!
So hard to find good friends. I feel soooo alone, how would you do!!!!?
I think you should volunteer somewhere. Maybe go to a second hand shop and ask if they need help. I work in a second hand shop once a month with my mom and there goes one saturday.
And sunday go to church. I go and the people are so nice. Some church's people don't reach out then just try another church till ya find one right for you.
Someone moved around here and he has already been to like 3 differant people's houses from church.
God loves you... see what the pastor has to tell you about him.
Reply:Yea, i TOTALLY understand. I mean, my "friends" hate me just because i'd rather play soccer with the guys than just sit aroung and talk about guys.They just fantasise when i actually make it happen.they call me a slut becaue they think im trying to immpress them.it's not my intention to make them like me, it just happens!i hate those girls so much.i actually have one true friend.she's my neighbor.we r 4 days apart and we look like each other!try to find someone like that.try talking to some people close to your age on your street and remember,friends and relationships can't be perfect.E-mail me back!
My friends and I always go out and get drunk. We always end up in bar fights. Should i find new friends.?
I'm 6'3 and a 135lbs, when we get into fights with other people, I'm always the first one to go down. Last time we had a fight the bouncers threw me over the bar and my friends didn't come to my defense.
My friends and I always go out and get drunk. We always end up in bar fights. Should i find new friends.?
yes, i would think you do. but who is really starting the fights.
Reply:you sound kinda thin thats probably why and duh you need to get knew friends unless you like getting into bar fights
Reply:if you would like to keep all of your teeth, lose the "friend".
That stupid crap is senseless, what are you, a Raiders fan?
Reply:well i dont think you should find new friends, i just think you and your friends need to learn how to control your selves when you are out in public. You guys need to know yall are going out to have a good time not to get into fights!
Reply:No you should stop drinking!!!!
Reply:I think you all should quit drinking in bars, there is nothing cool about fighting in public places and not to mention the damage that it does to property and to other people in general. Have some respect for others would ya!!
Not only that but it sounds like you can't fight worth a crap so why put yourself through the punishment. Either find new friends or stay home.
Reply:If these are your friends, I'd hate to meet your enemies....
Reply:Yes you need new friends lol x apart from anything else fighting is SOOOOO unattractive
Reply:You should find new friends because eventually, they're gonna get you in trouble. It's better to forget about them now than it is when your in jail! Also you could get seriously hurt.
If you can't bring yourself to find different friends, you should confront them about it.
Hope that helped.
Reply:I would, unless you like getting in fights and thrown out of bars.
Reply:Yes...and stay out of bars.
My friends and I always go out and get drunk. We always end up in bar fights. Should i find new friends.?
yes, i would think you do. but who is really starting the fights.
Reply:you sound kinda thin thats probably why and duh you need to get knew friends unless you like getting into bar fights
Reply:if you would like to keep all of your teeth, lose the "friend".
That stupid crap is senseless, what are you, a Raiders fan?
Reply:well i dont think you should find new friends, i just think you and your friends need to learn how to control your selves when you are out in public. You guys need to know yall are going out to have a good time not to get into fights!
Reply:No you should stop drinking!!!!
Reply:I think you all should quit drinking in bars, there is nothing cool about fighting in public places and not to mention the damage that it does to property and to other people in general. Have some respect for others would ya!!
Not only that but it sounds like you can't fight worth a crap so why put yourself through the punishment. Either find new friends or stay home.
Reply:If these are your friends, I'd hate to meet your enemies....
Reply:Yes you need new friends lol x apart from anything else fighting is SOOOOO unattractive
Reply:You should find new friends because eventually, they're gonna get you in trouble. It's better to forget about them now than it is when your in jail! Also you could get seriously hurt.
If you can't bring yourself to find different friends, you should confront them about it.
Hope that helped.
Reply:I would, unless you like getting in fights and thrown out of bars.
Reply:Yes...and stay out of bars.
Friends find me annoying?
i rarely get asked to hang out... only by 2-3 best friends (and rarely). i usually have to ask someone else or just happen to be in a group and end up chilling with them.
so tonight, i decided i was bored so i called a friend and said wanna hang out tonight, he said he was driving around with a few people and that they werent sure what they were doing but he'd call me back when they were..
so a couple hours later i call another guy, it turns out hes with the same group of people i called before, and the conversation was really confusing and they mightve been drunk or something, but they say they couldnt talk and theyd call be back in 30 min...
that never happened. looks like they blew me off. im starting to think im annoying or something.. im quiet... but i can keep a conversation going. i dont get it.
Friends find me annoying?
It's not you, it's your friends. People can be downright pr!cks.
Reply:Maybe they think that you won't enjoy the kind of time that they are.
I'm kind of like that with 2 of my best friends.
I'm a goody goody and they're like the opposite so we won't hang out if they're going to be doing something ungoody goody.
They know that I'm not comfortable being around "bad" stuff so they just respectfully leave me out. But not like your friends are doing.
I think they're just blowing you off.
And you said they were drunk so they might call you back hours later thinking its only been 30 minutes. Lol.
Reply:Yeah this happens to me, but I have found friends that really like me and want to do stuff with me. So that particular group maybe find you annoying, but that doesn't mean that another group of people find you annoying. Maybe they are the ones that have the problem not you. Cheer up, life brings unexpected turns and twists, but turns out good in the end. I'm sure you will get through this fine.
Reply:Trust me. It's not you. Having 2-3 best friends is better than most people (and I'm being honest).
Secondly, if these people were drunk and possibly even driving while under the influence, they aren't people you want to be around anyway. They would put you in danger and you can't want that.
Lastly, you said you were quiet. I applaud you for that. I never was in school and that really hindered my schooling. I managed to make it, but had I listened a little more and talked less I would have had a much easier way.
Good luck and keep your head up! You win in the long run!
so tonight, i decided i was bored so i called a friend and said wanna hang out tonight, he said he was driving around with a few people and that they werent sure what they were doing but he'd call me back when they were..
so a couple hours later i call another guy, it turns out hes with the same group of people i called before, and the conversation was really confusing and they mightve been drunk or something, but they say they couldnt talk and theyd call be back in 30 min...
that never happened. looks like they blew me off. im starting to think im annoying or something.. im quiet... but i can keep a conversation going. i dont get it.
Friends find me annoying?
It's not you, it's your friends. People can be downright pr!cks.
Reply:Maybe they think that you won't enjoy the kind of time that they are.
I'm kind of like that with 2 of my best friends.
I'm a goody goody and they're like the opposite so we won't hang out if they're going to be doing something ungoody goody.
They know that I'm not comfortable being around "bad" stuff so they just respectfully leave me out. But not like your friends are doing.
I think they're just blowing you off.
And you said they were drunk so they might call you back hours later thinking its only been 30 minutes. Lol.
Reply:Yeah this happens to me, but I have found friends that really like me and want to do stuff with me. So that particular group maybe find you annoying, but that doesn't mean that another group of people find you annoying. Maybe they are the ones that have the problem not you. Cheer up, life brings unexpected turns and twists, but turns out good in the end. I'm sure you will get through this fine.
Reply:Trust me. It's not you. Having 2-3 best friends is better than most people (and I'm being honest).
Secondly, if these people were drunk and possibly even driving while under the influence, they aren't people you want to be around anyway. They would put you in danger and you can't want that.
Lastly, you said you were quiet. I applaud you for that. I never was in school and that really hindered my schooling. I managed to make it, but had I listened a little more and talked less I would have had a much easier way.
Good luck and keep your head up! You win in the long run!
I need friends, where to find them?
I'm 16 and live in Virginia, I have friends, but none that could understand that I'm Bisexual. I really want other gay or bi guy friends and maybe even a boy friend, where are there good places to meet people, I live near DC too, any help would be appreciated.
I need friends, where to find them?
Try Myspace, it allows you to search (browse) for people who are gay or bi. Do an advanced search, and will show everyone in your zip code and at your school that is gay or bi.
Reply:I'll be your friend, Josh is a cute name. =)
I meet all my friends I meet in 'real life' online at first...if you're from a place where you don't really mesh with other people that's perfectly acceptable.
Look for places that have simliar interests than you, there's clubs for a lot of things. I meet most of my friends starting my own 'clubs' of simliar interests...I met my soulmate doing that. =)
Reply:school, mall, ...
Reply:While it is true that you might be able to find some friends here, you gotta be careful with all the crazines online. Especially as a minor. Be very careful. Are there any clubs in school like Gay/Straight Alliance or anything similar? Maybe something like myspace might help as well?
Reply:contact pflag.org--- they will get names and numbers for the kind of organizations that might interest you. Also check out gay/straight high school organizations. they can help too. My best to you.
Reply:lol i live in va too but in woodbridge anyway im already taken but always on the look out for friends anyway heres my myspace its www.myspace.com/animehairboylover or hit me up at aim at hondarsx03 bye
shark teeth
I need friends, where to find them?
Try Myspace, it allows you to search (browse) for people who are gay or bi. Do an advanced search, and will show everyone in your zip code and at your school that is gay or bi.
Reply:I'll be your friend, Josh is a cute name. =)
I meet all my friends I meet in 'real life' online at first...if you're from a place where you don't really mesh with other people that's perfectly acceptable.
Look for places that have simliar interests than you, there's clubs for a lot of things. I meet most of my friends starting my own 'clubs' of simliar interests...I met my soulmate doing that. =)
Reply:school, mall, ...
Reply:While it is true that you might be able to find some friends here, you gotta be careful with all the crazines online. Especially as a minor. Be very careful. Are there any clubs in school like Gay/Straight Alliance or anything similar? Maybe something like myspace might help as well?
Reply:contact pflag.org--- they will get names and numbers for the kind of organizations that might interest you. Also check out gay/straight high school organizations. they can help too. My best to you.
Reply:lol i live in va too but in woodbridge anyway im already taken but always on the look out for friends anyway heres my myspace its www.myspace.com/animehairboylover or hit me up at aim at hondarsx03 bye
shark teeth
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