I have 2 moms do I need to tell my friends before they find out.?

I love both my moms very much and they are coming to my college soccer game tonight. A lot of parents are in town this weekend so my moms will be meeting them. My friends at school don't know and I'm kind of scared to tell them seeing as how i go to a very conservitive school.





Do i need to tell my friends before their parents find out and tell them or not?

I have 2 moms do I need to tell my friends before they find out.?
I think it's up to you. Either way, they will find out. You could tell them, or just let them find out. If they're going to judge you and give you problems, don't associate with them. Plain and simple. It's your call.
Reply:you could tell them a head of time but you dont have too because that none of business to know you have two mom
Reply:Tough one seeing as people can be as*holes sometimes.Your true friends should be ok.seeing as you are in college i presume you are at an age where your friends are past name giving and stuff.Hopefully they are intelligent and mature enough to deal with it.If they are still kids i would wait.What's the rush!
Reply:well it depends ... if u feel better of telling ur friends then u should of course tell them first.





maybe u should tell them so that they can be ready for it when they actually meet them so that they dont make a big deal out of it..





probably if u dont tell ur friends and they meet ur parents they might continually ask u why u have 2 moms..





Good luck!


hope u do great at ur game!
Reply:How did you deal with it in high school? Didnt anyone ask then?


I would let the whole thing unfold and deal with it as it happens. If they are really your friends then it wont matter a bit. Introduce them as your moms, I can guarantee it will make your moms PROUD!!! If someone has a problem with it then you dont need them as a friend.


My daughter chooses to tell her friends she has two moms. She doesnt even mention she has a father. When someone says something negative to her, she deals with it. But like I said before, it will elate your moms!!
Reply:You can if you wish, but it's not mandatory. Some people might not care that you have two moms, or some might not even understand, and just think that you've got some aunts cheering for you. This might be something you wish to discuss with your moms.





Good luck in your soccer game, btw.
Reply:Is it allowed at a time in your area, I mean no objection from legal perspective, if not then okay declare it and enjoy with the blessing of two mom, their love and a good coaching. certainly will be climax when both will extend their maternal love to you.
Reply:no stay in a childs place until u have a long talk w your parents.. when they tell you its ok to speak about their lifestyles then do so.
Reply:I don't you "need" to tell them, but it's probably not a bad idea. Show them right away that you love your moms and you're not ashamed of them. That should stop any negative reaction and if it doesn't....well, I guess you'll find out if you really want to be friends with these people or not.





Good luck in the game and congrats on handling this situation in such an adult manner!
Reply:It would be better if your friends find out from you first. I'm sure for most of them it won't be a big deal at all, but if you don't tell them, and they find out about your moms later from their parents, they may wonder why you didn't tell them sooner -- are you ashamed of your moms?





And if your moms meet your friends' parents first-- and the friends' parents react negatively and say ignorant and hateful things to your friends about your lesbian moms, things could get ugly.





Tell your friends -- and make it clear that you love your moms, they're great people, you're proud of them, etc -- and be prepared to answer some questions from your friends about what it's like to grow up with 2 moms and so on. Then if your friends' parents make homophobic comments to them later about your lesbian moms, your friends will have a better perspective and be able to talk to their parents about your family situation in a more informed way.
Reply:Introduce you parents to their parents as "they are my moms, and I love them very much", don't stress out yourself by others judgements.
Reply:yes u should tell them before they get known to the FACT that 'll reduce ur tension and allow u to enjoy the game