Husband wants a divorce to go and find himself, but wants to stay friends???

I'm so lost on how to feel right now. My husbnd wants to get a divorce to go and find himself. Says he doesnt want to try anymore and that he just wants to go. He says he still loves me though...He says he wants to stay friends.. now I am a strong christian woman and Im at a loss on this one. Is it smart to try to be friends or just cut all ties now. At moments I fel as though we could stay friends and at other times I fell It may just tear me apart... Any thoughts??? Thank you god bless

Husband wants a divorce to go and find himself, but wants to stay friends???
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Reply:There is no reason why you shouldn't stay friends, and be there for each other, but if it will cause misery or term oil for you two than it is better to go your own way, and have the marriage end peacefully.
Reply:I would say if it is still fresh maybe cutting him out for now would be the best thing for you. I just recently went through the same thing. Four kids and eleven years later he decides he wants to "Find Himself" so I said fine I just dont want to see u until Im ready. I know it tears u apart but the thing is having him around is beneficial for him because he gets his freedom and you as well. He wants what he wants now focus on what you want. I know u may think u want him but why settle for less than what your worth. Thats how I personally look at it. I Have my kids which keeps me grounded but sometimes I find it a trying experience especially when they cry for their father at night. I just get angry and focus on making him regret what he threw away it helps to ease the pain. Then I focus on all the things I gave up in order to cater to him and focus on accomplishing them. Focus on things that u couldnt do and fill your days at first just so u dont think about it. The pain does lessen and u will get stronger just dont become bitter. You need to build yourself up again so trust in god he wouldnt ever give u a trial u couldnt overcome and I shall pray for u....God Bless
Reply:Honestly sounds like to me he wants to move on but keep you hanging on. Its different to stay on talking terms (not even friends) just get along for children sakes, but to actually stay friends after he hurts you it will tear you apart. Best bet is to let him go cut the ties. If you do have children then stay sociable for the children, but how could you possibly be actual friends? It would never work just keep hurting you.
Reply:Well there is no one right answer to this question as people's hearts change all the time. I would say as of right now move on. If he calls you, I see no reason as to not talk to him and be friendly. I wouldn't spend an extensive amount of time with him talking but a little chat won't hurt. Then I would get off the phone with him saying you had to go because you have plans. I wouldn't give him too many details on this though. Start your own life and focus on it to keep the tears away. You can always do more for your church. And that kind of help will make you feel value inside of you too. Then you never know maybe he will realize how much he misses you. Or maybe he really needs to move on too. And don't forget...church is also a great place to meet another great guy to spend your time with.
Reply:Well who knows when he finally finds himself what if it's not someone you would want to be friends with? Guess he'll have to introduce himself when he gets back and you'll have to take it from there.
Reply:I think what you decide to do will depend upon how comfortable you are with the idea of divorce, and also if there are any children involved. If there are children to consider, it may behoove you to stay friendly so everything is a bit easier for them. If you can both me mature and civilized about things, and not hold grudges or harbor ill will or point fingers and lay blame, then you could very well stay friends. But if you do not support his decision to "go find himself", or if you feel that's just a pile of bull shoy (for example-you think he's seeing someone else), then I don't think staying friends will come as easily as he thinks it should. Trust your gut and do what you think is right for you, not for him. Good luck.
Reply:If he dosen't want to try anymore, then what would be the sense in staying friends??? I think he might be saying this to make him feel less guilty and make you feel better (like there's hope of some kind) I know it may seem hard but I think it would be best to cut all ties!!!!!!!!
Reply:It is better to cut all ties. You are hurt and, he has a lot of growing up to do. You need to move on with your life ask god for help in what you are to do next maybe get some counseling to help you be stronger. But, let him move on cause it will cause you more pain in the long run........
Reply:We all have a throne on our heart.....happiness depends on who we place on that throne....


God said to have no other God's before you meaning the God of money, sex, fame, it could be many things......


He wants to sit on that throne


We find ourselves when God is sitting on that throne...everything around us takes on heavenly meaning......


This life is a preparation for the next realm...


We came to this existence from our mothers womb....we are on our way to another existence.....will we make it safely?


Will it be the happy realm? Heaven?


Pray about this situation....keep praying every day until the light comes through.....God answers prayer for those who repent of sin and accept him in their lives.
Reply:If there are no kids involved, then it is best to cut all ties with him. He shouldn't expect that everything will be all hunky dory with you two after a divorce. Tell him he made his choice, now he must live with it.
Reply:Well, I am sorry to hear about this. But you know, the situation could be a whole lot worse. I know it may not seem like that to you right now - but you sound like a smart woman and I am sure you will get through this just fine. I think that going through divorce is going to be hard and painful enough, and trying to salvage a friendship out of it will be just one more thing on your plate at the time. I think what he is saying is that he want th divorce to be as easy as possible for the both of you - no fighting or mess. Which is a welcome relief. Friendship is not out of the question - but give your heart the time it needs to heal. Down the road when the "dust has settled" a cup of coffee to catch up or a phone call on occassions might be nice. Just make sure there is some boundaries to prevent any misunderstandings. Good luck!