Ok. Two friends, a couple. E and J. E cheated on J a few months back. It was a big thing and they broke up for a while. Things did not work out for E so after some talking, E and J got back together. I was there to give advice to both of them during that time, and I tried not to take sides. But now E has become extremely jealous and starts fights with J often for very trivial reasons. Last time they were waiting for a bus and this Lesbian told J he was cute and if she was straight she would gladly go out with him. E got so jealous he pulled J away and started accusing J of wanting to sleep with the lesbian. I mean, like this was crazy. And there I was in the middle of that mess. Both of them are my friends and I love them, but how can i stay partial when one of them is clearly wrong? How can I make E see he is going to lose J if he continues to behave like an idiot? How without losing the friendship of one or both?
My friends keeps putting me in the middle of their problems and I find it hard to remain partial?
The problem about getting involved in the chaos of other peoples lives EVEN those we care about is that it attracts that same chaotic mess into yours. If E looses or keeps J it is up to him only. The hardest and best thing anyone can do for a friend is have faith in them to find their own way. I am not saying stop caring but actually care about them more by knowing that they can see the truth as easily as you can. If they ask for help remind them of the times in their lives that they have been strong, kind, and wise. Don't get pulled into what is going wrong but be a beacon of what is right about both of them. If you talk to J tell J all the things you admire and like about J. If you talk to E remind E of all the things you see in E. If they want to bag on the other just listen remember you have free will to feel about J and E any way you want. J and E will work out there own thing and if you are a lighthouse for them in the storm they will do it in the best way possible and really love you for it.
Reply:Take them to a councilor to discuss their problems.
Reply:You only get in the middle of something you ALLOW yourself to get inthe middle of next time don't...stand up for yourself "Say I am sorry but I am not getting involved. I want to remain both your friends and I do not want to be inthe middle."
Reply:Maybe you should explain to the both of them that they are both being childish and their relationship is in need of some serious professional help before one or the other destroys any hope pf happiness. Their relationship does not seem healthy by any means and you should spare yourself the heartache of dragging yourself through it with them!
Reply:Stand up for urself, and tell them that ur not getting involved in it. It is there problem, and if u get involved, it will only cause problems in ur life. Personally, I think that they shouldn't have gotten back together, that was a big mistake on their part, and now they are suffering for it. If you want to be their friend, don't get involved, cause u might end up loosing one or both of them, as a friend.
Reply:E and J need to give it up anyway. That relationship has failure written all over it. As for YOU, you need to get some temper with them and tell them enough is enough - it is not your job to mediate.
Also, I think J needs to get with a Peter and a Bobby and have a threesome. That way it'd be P,B and J. :)
Reply:stop being partial. let the one whos wrong know whats up.
Reply:I think you mean impartial...
Tell them to work it out, and not to involve you. Lock them in a small room together, until they work it out.
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Why cant i find real friends these days evey one all ways want more then that?
when you ask to be friends they want more then that and if they do say ok we can be friends they dont really mean it because they be wanting to have sex friends dont do friends not real ones anyway
Why cant i find real friends these days evey one all ways want more then that?
I am sorry to be the one to tell you this, but men in your age group, I mean by this 14 to 99, mostly talk to a woman because they want to have sex with her.
There are exceptions, but I mean overall the trend would be if he is calling you on the cell phone its because he wants a friend with benefits or a girlfriend or something like this.
I've had friends like that, "friends", I wanted to go to bed with them, yeah, one girl it was like 7 years of back and forth and flirting and it was always out there,
I shagged her baby, shagged her rotted.
Men are dogs. I'm sorry to break it to you,
the way we operate, I think, and this is general, is we find a woman attractive we try and see if she is intelligent and half way personable and fun to get along with, try and sleep with her, and proceed from there.
I'm sorry, men are dogs. You can find one who might be ideal and all that and have a wonderful relationship with that man, and marry and all that.
If it werent for the mechanism of the dog programming it wouldn't get to that point thou.
Reply:if you can dream it, it will become truth,
on that day call yourself, Uber Wise,
until that day my answer shall be picked. Report It
Reply:You can be friends with married men. :) Of course, not all married men are decent, so select cautiously.
I think this concept of being friends is just rare in the US. In Europe, you see men and women being friends just fine. There's more respect between men and women, and people get to know each other well as friends, so if you are not compatible as a couple (just having a relationship without sex), then you remain as friends anyway. Good luck!
Reply:As a guy, I know that if a hot girl wants to be friends with me, I will say ok becuase I assume that after she gets to know me she will start to like me. The reason you want be friends with guys, as opposed to girls, where there is no risk of relationship, is that you like the sexual tension. For you, it is just fun having that extra spark, but for a guy, the sexual tension just keeps building until he has to go for it. its a tough situation though. good luck
Reply:You need to make friends with girls not boys.
Reply:There are people in the world that are desprate, and they have met people that don't just want to be friends, so they expect you to be the same way. But just keep on looking, there are people int he world that want to take it by friendship, not by sex.
Reply:that a really hard question to anwser considering the fact that i have the same problem its not easy being beautiful is it hun well i read one of the anwsers and it said that you should make friends with girls not guys but im bi so i have problems with both and well i have said every thing i have to say so hope it was a little help take it for wat it is love,beth email:scary_gothic_chic@yahoo.com
Why cant i find real friends these days evey one all ways want more then that?
I am sorry to be the one to tell you this, but men in your age group, I mean by this 14 to 99, mostly talk to a woman because they want to have sex with her.
There are exceptions, but I mean overall the trend would be if he is calling you on the cell phone its because he wants a friend with benefits or a girlfriend or something like this.
I've had friends like that, "friends", I wanted to go to bed with them, yeah, one girl it was like 7 years of back and forth and flirting and it was always out there,
I shagged her baby, shagged her rotted.
Men are dogs. I'm sorry to break it to you,
the way we operate, I think, and this is general, is we find a woman attractive we try and see if she is intelligent and half way personable and fun to get along with, try and sleep with her, and proceed from there.
I'm sorry, men are dogs. You can find one who might be ideal and all that and have a wonderful relationship with that man, and marry and all that.
If it werent for the mechanism of the dog programming it wouldn't get to that point thou.
Reply:if you can dream it, it will become truth,
on that day call yourself, Uber Wise,
until that day my answer shall be picked. Report It
Reply:You can be friends with married men. :) Of course, not all married men are decent, so select cautiously.
I think this concept of being friends is just rare in the US. In Europe, you see men and women being friends just fine. There's more respect between men and women, and people get to know each other well as friends, so if you are not compatible as a couple (just having a relationship without sex), then you remain as friends anyway. Good luck!
Reply:As a guy, I know that if a hot girl wants to be friends with me, I will say ok becuase I assume that after she gets to know me she will start to like me. The reason you want be friends with guys, as opposed to girls, where there is no risk of relationship, is that you like the sexual tension. For you, it is just fun having that extra spark, but for a guy, the sexual tension just keeps building until he has to go for it. its a tough situation though. good luck
Reply:You need to make friends with girls not boys.
Reply:There are people in the world that are desprate, and they have met people that don't just want to be friends, so they expect you to be the same way. But just keep on looking, there are people int he world that want to take it by friendship, not by sex.
Reply:that a really hard question to anwser considering the fact that i have the same problem its not easy being beautiful is it hun well i read one of the anwsers and it said that you should make friends with girls not guys but im bi so i have problems with both and well i have said every thing i have to say so hope it was a little help take it for wat it is love,beth email:scary_gothic_chic@yahoo.com
If you've never had friends and you find a female friend, should you get close to her?
if i like her and she's not taken, should i get close to her or wait to meet another girl and let the first girl be my just a friend. I say this because some people have said that it's important to have female friends. And i'm 26 already, and i think i will start having friends of any kind at 30, 32, 35.. something like that. since i'm not an outgoing person and don't generally meet anyone cause i don't go anywhere where there is young people.
If you've never had friends and you find a female friend, should you get close to her?
Buddy if you have feelings for her, then go for it, you can make good female friends through her later on, if you are looking for the one to settle down with, ask her out and give it a shot, and if it doesnt work out then just try to make things amicable and stay friends....you can always have both.
Reply:im 19 years old...is it ok?? %26lt;hehe%26gt; ^^,
Reply:you can never have enough real friends, female or otherwise. and if it's going to be more than that, it'll happen.
wisdom teeth
If you've never had friends and you find a female friend, should you get close to her?
Buddy if you have feelings for her, then go for it, you can make good female friends through her later on, if you are looking for the one to settle down with, ask her out and give it a shot, and if it doesnt work out then just try to make things amicable and stay friends....you can always have both.
Reply:im 19 years old...is it ok?? %26lt;hehe%26gt; ^^,
Reply:you can never have enough real friends, female or otherwise. and if it's going to be more than that, it'll happen.
wisdom teeth
So hard to find good friends. I feel soooo alone, how would you do!!!!?
I’m not a shy person, very sociable and friendly indeed. I used to have quite a few friends from school but we were never closed friends. I’m 23 but feel much older – from my personality to my perspective in life. Therefore, I never felt really fit-in with the friends of my age. I can hang out with them, but deep inside I feel very empty. I don’t feel I can relate to them so that I could share my feelings or thoughts with them. Slowly I just started losing everyone’s contact. I have some older friends too but most already married and occupied by their family times.
Weekdays are quite ok since I’m busy with work and all. But weekends are usually the worst. I’ve been trying to do things I enjoy or need to do, like working out, housework, cooking, etc. but nothing really helps. My family is gone all day long on Sunday at church. I tried that too but I guess I can’t force myself into something I’m not ready yet. I tried doing things and going places by myself but it's still depressing!
So hard to find good friends. I feel soooo alone, how would you do!!!!?
I think you should volunteer somewhere. Maybe go to a second hand shop and ask if they need help. I work in a second hand shop once a month with my mom and there goes one saturday.
And sunday go to church. I go and the people are so nice. Some church's people don't reach out then just try another church till ya find one right for you.
Someone moved around here and he has already been to like 3 differant people's houses from church.
God loves you... see what the pastor has to tell you about him.
Reply:Yea, i TOTALLY understand. I mean, my "friends" hate me just because i'd rather play soccer with the guys than just sit aroung and talk about guys.They just fantasise when i actually make it happen.they call me a slut becaue they think im trying to immpress them.it's not my intention to make them like me, it just happens!i hate those girls so much.i actually have one true friend.she's my neighbor.we r 4 days apart and we look like each other!try to find someone like that.try talking to some people close to your age on your street and remember,friends and relationships can't be perfect.E-mail me back!
Weekdays are quite ok since I’m busy with work and all. But weekends are usually the worst. I’ve been trying to do things I enjoy or need to do, like working out, housework, cooking, etc. but nothing really helps. My family is gone all day long on Sunday at church. I tried that too but I guess I can’t force myself into something I’m not ready yet. I tried doing things and going places by myself but it's still depressing!
So hard to find good friends. I feel soooo alone, how would you do!!!!?
I think you should volunteer somewhere. Maybe go to a second hand shop and ask if they need help. I work in a second hand shop once a month with my mom and there goes one saturday.
And sunday go to church. I go and the people are so nice. Some church's people don't reach out then just try another church till ya find one right for you.
Someone moved around here and he has already been to like 3 differant people's houses from church.
God loves you... see what the pastor has to tell you about him.
Reply:Yea, i TOTALLY understand. I mean, my "friends" hate me just because i'd rather play soccer with the guys than just sit aroung and talk about guys.They just fantasise when i actually make it happen.they call me a slut becaue they think im trying to immpress them.it's not my intention to make them like me, it just happens!i hate those girls so much.i actually have one true friend.she's my neighbor.we r 4 days apart and we look like each other!try to find someone like that.try talking to some people close to your age on your street and remember,friends and relationships can't be perfect.E-mail me back!
My friends and I always go out and get drunk. We always end up in bar fights. Should i find new friends.?
I'm 6'3 and a 135lbs, when we get into fights with other people, I'm always the first one to go down. Last time we had a fight the bouncers threw me over the bar and my friends didn't come to my defense.
My friends and I always go out and get drunk. We always end up in bar fights. Should i find new friends.?
yes, i would think you do. but who is really starting the fights.
Reply:you sound kinda thin thats probably why and duh you need to get knew friends unless you like getting into bar fights
Reply:if you would like to keep all of your teeth, lose the "friend".
That stupid crap is senseless, what are you, a Raiders fan?
Reply:well i dont think you should find new friends, i just think you and your friends need to learn how to control your selves when you are out in public. You guys need to know yall are going out to have a good time not to get into fights!
Reply:No you should stop drinking!!!!
Reply:I think you all should quit drinking in bars, there is nothing cool about fighting in public places and not to mention the damage that it does to property and to other people in general. Have some respect for others would ya!!
Not only that but it sounds like you can't fight worth a crap so why put yourself through the punishment. Either find new friends or stay home.
Reply:If these are your friends, I'd hate to meet your enemies....
Reply:Yes you need new friends lol x apart from anything else fighting is SOOOOO unattractive
Reply:You should find new friends because eventually, they're gonna get you in trouble. It's better to forget about them now than it is when your in jail! Also you could get seriously hurt.
If you can't bring yourself to find different friends, you should confront them about it.
Hope that helped.
Reply:I would, unless you like getting in fights and thrown out of bars.
Reply:Yes...and stay out of bars.
My friends and I always go out and get drunk. We always end up in bar fights. Should i find new friends.?
yes, i would think you do. but who is really starting the fights.
Reply:you sound kinda thin thats probably why and duh you need to get knew friends unless you like getting into bar fights
Reply:if you would like to keep all of your teeth, lose the "friend".
That stupid crap is senseless, what are you, a Raiders fan?
Reply:well i dont think you should find new friends, i just think you and your friends need to learn how to control your selves when you are out in public. You guys need to know yall are going out to have a good time not to get into fights!
Reply:No you should stop drinking!!!!
Reply:I think you all should quit drinking in bars, there is nothing cool about fighting in public places and not to mention the damage that it does to property and to other people in general. Have some respect for others would ya!!
Not only that but it sounds like you can't fight worth a crap so why put yourself through the punishment. Either find new friends or stay home.
Reply:If these are your friends, I'd hate to meet your enemies....
Reply:Yes you need new friends lol x apart from anything else fighting is SOOOOO unattractive
Reply:You should find new friends because eventually, they're gonna get you in trouble. It's better to forget about them now than it is when your in jail! Also you could get seriously hurt.
If you can't bring yourself to find different friends, you should confront them about it.
Hope that helped.
Reply:I would, unless you like getting in fights and thrown out of bars.
Reply:Yes...and stay out of bars.
Friends find me annoying?
i rarely get asked to hang out... only by 2-3 best friends (and rarely). i usually have to ask someone else or just happen to be in a group and end up chilling with them.
so tonight, i decided i was bored so i called a friend and said wanna hang out tonight, he said he was driving around with a few people and that they werent sure what they were doing but he'd call me back when they were..
so a couple hours later i call another guy, it turns out hes with the same group of people i called before, and the conversation was really confusing and they mightve been drunk or something, but they say they couldnt talk and theyd call be back in 30 min...
that never happened. looks like they blew me off. im starting to think im annoying or something.. im quiet... but i can keep a conversation going. i dont get it.
Friends find me annoying?
It's not you, it's your friends. People can be downright pr!cks.
Reply:Maybe they think that you won't enjoy the kind of time that they are.
I'm kind of like that with 2 of my best friends.
I'm a goody goody and they're like the opposite so we won't hang out if they're going to be doing something ungoody goody.
They know that I'm not comfortable being around "bad" stuff so they just respectfully leave me out. But not like your friends are doing.
I think they're just blowing you off.
And you said they were drunk so they might call you back hours later thinking its only been 30 minutes. Lol.
Reply:Yeah this happens to me, but I have found friends that really like me and want to do stuff with me. So that particular group maybe find you annoying, but that doesn't mean that another group of people find you annoying. Maybe they are the ones that have the problem not you. Cheer up, life brings unexpected turns and twists, but turns out good in the end. I'm sure you will get through this fine.
Reply:Trust me. It's not you. Having 2-3 best friends is better than most people (and I'm being honest).
Secondly, if these people were drunk and possibly even driving while under the influence, they aren't people you want to be around anyway. They would put you in danger and you can't want that.
Lastly, you said you were quiet. I applaud you for that. I never was in school and that really hindered my schooling. I managed to make it, but had I listened a little more and talked less I would have had a much easier way.
Good luck and keep your head up! You win in the long run!
so tonight, i decided i was bored so i called a friend and said wanna hang out tonight, he said he was driving around with a few people and that they werent sure what they were doing but he'd call me back when they were..
so a couple hours later i call another guy, it turns out hes with the same group of people i called before, and the conversation was really confusing and they mightve been drunk or something, but they say they couldnt talk and theyd call be back in 30 min...
that never happened. looks like they blew me off. im starting to think im annoying or something.. im quiet... but i can keep a conversation going. i dont get it.
Friends find me annoying?
It's not you, it's your friends. People can be downright pr!cks.
Reply:Maybe they think that you won't enjoy the kind of time that they are.
I'm kind of like that with 2 of my best friends.
I'm a goody goody and they're like the opposite so we won't hang out if they're going to be doing something ungoody goody.
They know that I'm not comfortable being around "bad" stuff so they just respectfully leave me out. But not like your friends are doing.
I think they're just blowing you off.
And you said they were drunk so they might call you back hours later thinking its only been 30 minutes. Lol.
Reply:Yeah this happens to me, but I have found friends that really like me and want to do stuff with me. So that particular group maybe find you annoying, but that doesn't mean that another group of people find you annoying. Maybe they are the ones that have the problem not you. Cheer up, life brings unexpected turns and twists, but turns out good in the end. I'm sure you will get through this fine.
Reply:Trust me. It's not you. Having 2-3 best friends is better than most people (and I'm being honest).
Secondly, if these people were drunk and possibly even driving while under the influence, they aren't people you want to be around anyway. They would put you in danger and you can't want that.
Lastly, you said you were quiet. I applaud you for that. I never was in school and that really hindered my schooling. I managed to make it, but had I listened a little more and talked less I would have had a much easier way.
Good luck and keep your head up! You win in the long run!
I need friends, where to find them?
I'm 16 and live in Virginia, I have friends, but none that could understand that I'm Bisexual. I really want other gay or bi guy friends and maybe even a boy friend, where are there good places to meet people, I live near DC too, any help would be appreciated.
I need friends, where to find them?
Try Myspace, it allows you to search (browse) for people who are gay or bi. Do an advanced search, and will show everyone in your zip code and at your school that is gay or bi.
Reply:I'll be your friend, Josh is a cute name. =)
I meet all my friends I meet in 'real life' online at first...if you're from a place where you don't really mesh with other people that's perfectly acceptable.
Look for places that have simliar interests than you, there's clubs for a lot of things. I meet most of my friends starting my own 'clubs' of simliar interests...I met my soulmate doing that. =)
Reply:school, mall, ...
Reply:While it is true that you might be able to find some friends here, you gotta be careful with all the crazines online. Especially as a minor. Be very careful. Are there any clubs in school like Gay/Straight Alliance or anything similar? Maybe something like myspace might help as well?
Reply:contact pflag.org--- they will get names and numbers for the kind of organizations that might interest you. Also check out gay/straight high school organizations. they can help too. My best to you.
Reply:lol i live in va too but in woodbridge anyway im already taken but always on the look out for friends anyway heres my myspace its www.myspace.com/animehairboylover or hit me up at aim at hondarsx03 bye
shark teeth
I need friends, where to find them?
Try Myspace, it allows you to search (browse) for people who are gay or bi. Do an advanced search, and will show everyone in your zip code and at your school that is gay or bi.
Reply:I'll be your friend, Josh is a cute name. =)
I meet all my friends I meet in 'real life' online at first...if you're from a place where you don't really mesh with other people that's perfectly acceptable.
Look for places that have simliar interests than you, there's clubs for a lot of things. I meet most of my friends starting my own 'clubs' of simliar interests...I met my soulmate doing that. =)
Reply:school, mall, ...
Reply:While it is true that you might be able to find some friends here, you gotta be careful with all the crazines online. Especially as a minor. Be very careful. Are there any clubs in school like Gay/Straight Alliance or anything similar? Maybe something like myspace might help as well?
Reply:contact pflag.org--- they will get names and numbers for the kind of organizations that might interest you. Also check out gay/straight high school organizations. they can help too. My best to you.
Reply:lol i live in va too but in woodbridge anyway im already taken but always on the look out for friends anyway heres my myspace its www.myspace.com/animehairboylover or hit me up at aim at hondarsx03 bye
shark teeth
How can i make friends with others? Where do I find them?
Till date I dont have a friend, I feel something is missing, I wonder Its all because of a good friend!!! How do i make friend with other, where or how can i find my best as well as great(good) friend)
How can i make friends with others? Where do I find them?
Technically you can’t just go out and recruit for ‘true’ friends – they just happen without given notice – out of a blue! Fate will placed them in your path to help in your journey. Just be yourself and be true to yourself. People will be drawn to you like honey if you display great qualities of a true friend.
You’re likely to meet like-minded people in the activities where you enjoy most. Don’t join in activities just because you are too eager to make friends – people can smell desperation right away. Just like love, you cant search for it till it FINDS you!
Reply:join a club...or get a cool hobby...you enjoy....i think it's the best way
Reply:Join a group that shares your interests. I met my best friend 15 years ago at an art discussion group. You also might want to consider making a self assessment to see what you have to offer as a friend.
How can i make friends with others? Where do I find them?
Technically you can’t just go out and recruit for ‘true’ friends – they just happen without given notice – out of a blue! Fate will placed them in your path to help in your journey. Just be yourself and be true to yourself. People will be drawn to you like honey if you display great qualities of a true friend.
You’re likely to meet like-minded people in the activities where you enjoy most. Don’t join in activities just because you are too eager to make friends – people can smell desperation right away. Just like love, you cant search for it till it FINDS you!
Reply:join a club...or get a cool hobby...you enjoy....i think it's the best way
Reply:Join a group that shares your interests. I met my best friend 15 years ago at an art discussion group. You also might want to consider making a self assessment to see what you have to offer as a friend.
The two friends I used to socialise with most have moved away. Where can I go to find and make new friends?
All my other friends live out of town as well, and people at work are all middle-aged with families. I have nothing to look forward to at weekends anymore, most of which are now spent in front of the telly. I’m so bored and fed up – I want to enjoy nights out and have fun again! How can I go about making new friends? I’m 29 years-old and live in Bristol, UK.
The two friends I used to socialise with most have moved away. Where can I go to find and make new friends?
Start going out by yourself and making new friends...be more outgoing. Step outside your comfort zone. A lot of my friends I have made through taking college courses and at various places I have worked over the years.
Reply:best thing to do is go down the pub on your own during the week nights (it's usually quieter then) the others in the pub will probably speak to you then. Then when you go out on weekends they will most probably be there again. At least its better than staying at home.
Reply:u know its real easy when someone comes up to u and is like 'hey wats up?'and u become friends.but the real problem is when u gotta do the first approach and thats where u stand today.if u really want friends to hang out with u've got to make the first move.there are a lot of nice ppl around that u might consider.try coming up wif something and gather up courage u'll see how easy it becomes after sometime.i ddnt know how to make friends at first.now call me a pro.good luck!!!!!
Reply:Phone up "dial a friend", just joking! You should try joining some sports clubs or a gym and meet new people there, stike a conversation and who knows you might gain a new friend or two or three or four or five or six or seven etc
Reply:do they have night clubs in da UK
Reply:OK well I'm a military child so I've had lots of friends move away from me and i know exactly how you feel. its really important that you keep in touch with your friends who have moved. you can make friends by just being yourself and eventually you will find some one at work. maby going to clubs will also help. Don't worry just act normal and try to be extroverted and outgoing. if some one tries to talk to you don't be shy talk to them. i hope that everything goes good and you make new friends fast.
The two friends I used to socialise with most have moved away. Where can I go to find and make new friends?
Start going out by yourself and making new friends...be more outgoing. Step outside your comfort zone. A lot of my friends I have made through taking college courses and at various places I have worked over the years.
Reply:best thing to do is go down the pub on your own during the week nights (it's usually quieter then) the others in the pub will probably speak to you then. Then when you go out on weekends they will most probably be there again. At least its better than staying at home.
Reply:u know its real easy when someone comes up to u and is like 'hey wats up?'and u become friends.but the real problem is when u gotta do the first approach and thats where u stand today.if u really want friends to hang out with u've got to make the first move.there are a lot of nice ppl around that u might consider.try coming up wif something and gather up courage u'll see how easy it becomes after sometime.i ddnt know how to make friends at first.now call me a pro.good luck!!!!!
Reply:Phone up "dial a friend", just joking! You should try joining some sports clubs or a gym and meet new people there, stike a conversation and who knows you might gain a new friend or two or three or four or five or six or seven etc
Reply:do they have night clubs in da UK
Reply:OK well I'm a military child so I've had lots of friends move away from me and i know exactly how you feel. its really important that you keep in touch with your friends who have moved. you can make friends by just being yourself and eventually you will find some one at work. maby going to clubs will also help. Don't worry just act normal and try to be extroverted and outgoing. if some one tries to talk to you don't be shy talk to them. i hope that everything goes good and you make new friends fast.
Why do friends flirt w/ my crush as soon as they find out I like him?
I told my friend last week that I had strong feelings for this boy. She hardly noticed or spoke to him before that %26amp; ever since she found out, she's been trying to get his attention %26amp; flirt w/ him. I know her self-esteem is largely made up by attn from boys, but she's kinda involved w/ someone, so I don't get why she is bothering w/ this guy. I mentioned it to her briefly %26amp; she said she was wondering if I might notice %26amp; that he was just easy to flirt with (but the whole conversation was kinda weird %26amp; inconclusive). It bothers me %26amp; I don't know how to make sure I don't make a big deal out of it if it's not really a prob. I also wonder if she would go behind my back %26amp; flirt w/ him when I'm not around which irritates me.
I had another close friend that hooked up w/ the guy I liked this summer %26amp; I've become very distant from her since. I don't want to keep losing good friendships like this, but I don't get why my friends keep becoming interested in my object of affection.
Why do friends flirt w/ my crush as soon as they find out I like him?
well, your friends probably just havent ever noticed these guys before. Now that you've gotten them to notice them, they may have just realized that these guys are actually attractive and unconciously flirt with them
about the ones that are weird and purposely do it, they may be insecure and therefore competitive. they probably just want to let themselves feel like they are attractive enough for anybody.
i would just play their game and flirt even harder with these guys and make them completely yours. if they flirt with guys that you are going out with, then you should give them a talk and then to the guy to make sure nothing happens.
Reply:ur friends do taht czu they knwo u like him they trying to make ya jelouse trust me they gonna be going with him so it means the aint real friends well who is?
Reply:If they were really ur friends, they wouldn't try at all to flirt with or steal ur guy at all from u. Lol tell her that and see what she does.Try making different friends.
Reply:If you got a problem with it then it's a problem. Bring this to your friends attention and tell her that you would appreciate if she stopped. If she was a true friend she wouldn't do that to you. Your friends sound like slutz
I had another close friend that hooked up w/ the guy I liked this summer %26amp; I've become very distant from her since. I don't want to keep losing good friendships like this, but I don't get why my friends keep becoming interested in my object of affection.
Why do friends flirt w/ my crush as soon as they find out I like him?
well, your friends probably just havent ever noticed these guys before. Now that you've gotten them to notice them, they may have just realized that these guys are actually attractive and unconciously flirt with them
about the ones that are weird and purposely do it, they may be insecure and therefore competitive. they probably just want to let themselves feel like they are attractive enough for anybody.
i would just play their game and flirt even harder with these guys and make them completely yours. if they flirt with guys that you are going out with, then you should give them a talk and then to the guy to make sure nothing happens.
Reply:ur friends do taht czu they knwo u like him they trying to make ya jelouse trust me they gonna be going with him so it means the aint real friends well who is?
Reply:If they were really ur friends, they wouldn't try at all to flirt with or steal ur guy at all from u. Lol tell her that and see what she does.Try making different friends.
Reply:If you got a problem with it then it's a problem. Bring this to your friends attention and tell her that you would appreciate if she stopped. If she was a true friend she wouldn't do that to you. Your friends sound like slutz
How to find new friends?
I have a friend who lives hours away from me, as does most of her friends, so basically she doesnt have any close female friends near her that she can see regularly.
Due to this she tends to spend all of her time with her bf, and she likes that but he has expressed interested in spending a little more time apart and said she should get more female friends to hang out with.
She asked my opinion on how to meet girls, as i dont have much luck in that department either i am seeking other advice.
She doesnt really like bars and doesnt have any interests at the moment, and hell from my experience girls tend to not like other girls anyway.
How to find new friends?
For one, she could post an ad on craigslist, stating the kind of things she would like to do:
work out buddy, ride bikes together, learn to knit (start a knitting group), maybe start a book club, a shopping buddy, etc.
There might already be a similar posting on craigslist, so she could look through the postings in the 'platonic' section or in the community events section.
Another piece of advice is to look at your local craft stores, book stores, sporting equipment stores,etc. for groups that already meet which she could join.
Taking a class at the local community college, either a regular class or an adult education class (art, cooking, ballet, any of her interests) would definitely introduce you guys to a new group of people.
Have a yard sale, and invite your closest neighbors to participate in a Neighborhood Yard Sale. This will help to introduce yourselves to people that live around you and you might meet someone who could be a friend. For that matter, you could do any community thing - like start a neighborhood watch program, a neighborhood recycling program, etc.
Reply:Neither one of you will EVER meet other girls with that attitude that girls tend to not like other girls anyway. It sound s to me like the problem lies with YOU.
Reply:come one it is not so hard to have friend she should be normal and maybe seeing some girls in schools and try to be herself and she will be so relax.
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Due to this she tends to spend all of her time with her bf, and she likes that but he has expressed interested in spending a little more time apart and said she should get more female friends to hang out with.
She asked my opinion on how to meet girls, as i dont have much luck in that department either i am seeking other advice.
She doesnt really like bars and doesnt have any interests at the moment, and hell from my experience girls tend to not like other girls anyway.
How to find new friends?
For one, she could post an ad on craigslist, stating the kind of things she would like to do:
work out buddy, ride bikes together, learn to knit (start a knitting group), maybe start a book club, a shopping buddy, etc.
There might already be a similar posting on craigslist, so she could look through the postings in the 'platonic' section or in the community events section.
Another piece of advice is to look at your local craft stores, book stores, sporting equipment stores,etc. for groups that already meet which she could join.
Taking a class at the local community college, either a regular class or an adult education class (art, cooking, ballet, any of her interests) would definitely introduce you guys to a new group of people.
Have a yard sale, and invite your closest neighbors to participate in a Neighborhood Yard Sale. This will help to introduce yourselves to people that live around you and you might meet someone who could be a friend. For that matter, you could do any community thing - like start a neighborhood watch program, a neighborhood recycling program, etc.
Reply:Neither one of you will EVER meet other girls with that attitude that girls tend to not like other girls anyway. It sound s to me like the problem lies with YOU.
Reply:come one it is not so hard to have friend she should be normal and maybe seeing some girls in schools and try to be herself and she will be so relax.
teeth whitening
Can someone married have friends of the opposite sex? If so how can find I find her ?
Can men and women be friends? I used to have a couple women friends from work long time ago. We used to hang out, have things in common, swap stories, not tonges and it was enjoyable having lunch together. However they moved or changed jobs. I miss those great times. Lately, I was thinking of meeting new friends but don't know how to go about it. I know I started with a question to see if other have had the same experiences as me and if it's ok to have female friends.
Can someone married have friends of the opposite sex? If so how can find I find her ?
Friends are friends because they care about you, they make you laugh and feel good it don't matter what gender they are, so go out and make FRIENDS
Reply:boy,
I've been married most of my adult life, and I've had more than a few friends of the platonic type with females. Nothing wrong with it, as long as it stays platonic.
That said, sir, I think that there WOULD be a problem if you try to go LOOKING for it. See, friends are just that...it shouldn't matter what gender they are. If you go looking for female friends...well, that's just LOOKING for trouble, in my opinion.
I would concentrate on looking for friends, not male or female, just friends, folks to interact with. If it turns out that she's female, fine. Don't go looking for females.
Reply:Yes.
Reply:If you don't give either of the other spouses reason to doubt your friendship then it shouldn't be a problem, but why whould you leave your spouse at home to go and hang out with someone else. My long-term bf that I have now---all of his friends are woman. But he doen's go hang out with them without me and we have an open relationship-sexual wise.
Reply:nope after u r married no way at alllllllllll
Reply:Why don't you try looking up your old friends? If their husbands answer the phone introduce yourself, tell how you know their wife, let the husband know you'd like to meet him...just don't act all mushy b/c he will make sure you don't get in contact with his wife. It's tough because you sound like it's the old friends you miss. But, if you were really that cool with them, what's the prob w/ finding them. If you're in a good relationship, that's even better. You won't be perceived by the husbands as a threat to the stability of their family.
Can someone married have friends of the opposite sex? If so how can find I find her ?
Friends are friends because they care about you, they make you laugh and feel good it don't matter what gender they are, so go out and make FRIENDS
Reply:boy,
I've been married most of my adult life, and I've had more than a few friends of the platonic type with females. Nothing wrong with it, as long as it stays platonic.
That said, sir, I think that there WOULD be a problem if you try to go LOOKING for it. See, friends are just that...it shouldn't matter what gender they are. If you go looking for female friends...well, that's just LOOKING for trouble, in my opinion.
I would concentrate on looking for friends, not male or female, just friends, folks to interact with. If it turns out that she's female, fine. Don't go looking for females.
Reply:Yes.
Reply:If you don't give either of the other spouses reason to doubt your friendship then it shouldn't be a problem, but why whould you leave your spouse at home to go and hang out with someone else. My long-term bf that I have now---all of his friends are woman. But he doen's go hang out with them without me and we have an open relationship-sexual wise.
Reply:nope after u r married no way at alllllllllll
Reply:Why don't you try looking up your old friends? If their husbands answer the phone introduce yourself, tell how you know their wife, let the husband know you'd like to meet him...just don't act all mushy b/c he will make sure you don't get in contact with his wife. It's tough because you sound like it's the old friends you miss. But, if you were really that cool with them, what's the prob w/ finding them. If you're in a good relationship, that's even better. You won't be perceived by the husbands as a threat to the stability of their family.
Lets say your hanging out with friends and find that they were previously invited to hangout with other......?
.... previously invited to hang out with other friends, who live 15 minutes free way time away and in an area you have never been to before. the friends you're hanging out with all ask you to drive them there, now not knowing there area at all nore not knowing or wanting to know the those people you tell your friends that you are not comfortable to drive them there, they through a fit begin to get frustrated with you and eventually you end up dropping them off at a gass station in the middle of a near by town for the others to pick them up at. Now the next time you see your friends and try to talk to them they say you're no longer their friends nor will they ever talk to you again.... Does that seem fair?
Lets say your hanging out with friends and find that they were previously invited to hangout with other......?
it sounds to me like you didnt have very good friends to start with
Lets say your hanging out with friends and find that they were previously invited to hangout with other......?
it sounds to me like you didnt have very good friends to start with
Find new friends at Forty?
I'm almost forty and live in a small town which I don't particularly care for. I'd like to make a friend or two to share my common interests, but nothing too involving. Would be nice to have someone to share a movie with or another dad to discuss parenting with, etc.
My life is otherwise quite fulfilled and I take a lot of pleasure from my (self employed) work, wife, son and dog. In truth, I wouldn't want to be he kind of person who had a lot of friends as I really wouldn't have the time or commitment to keep in touch with them all.
Any answers would be welcome. I was once a member of a martial arts club and that was good for a while. But I found myself disappointed with the friends I had there and also didn't really think that the friendships were even sided, so I quit. I'd also gone too fat from wayyy too much working overtime in my day job so that didn't help either! ;)
Thanks.
R
Find new friends at Forty?
I've made good friends offline from people i met on social sites online...also any hobby, volunteer work, classes, etc that may interest you have the potential of people being there that may be friend-material for you.
Are there PTA meetings at your child's school? Perhaps a parent whose child also attends your child's school, would be a potential friend.
There are many ways to meet people...join online groups/websites that cater to people who have interests common to yours...look up groups online that focus on your local area. Scan your Sunday paper for clubs or groups that meet around your area. Perhaps there's something you'd be interested in investigating (a car club, a card playing group, charitable organization, etc).
Good luck!
Reply:Every town, even the small ones, have their share of older people. Offer your help to someone who may need it. You may be surprised to find someone who may not be as able to "get around" easily, but could be an interesting person to spend some time with in conversation. They may even want to go to a movie. And, more important, it should not be a threat to your wife.
Reply:I'm in the same boat and its hard....everyone tells me to find new interests or go to church...well, I'm not into church and its hard to find new interests at 40 when you are a single parent....if you get some good answers, let me know!!!
My life is otherwise quite fulfilled and I take a lot of pleasure from my (self employed) work, wife, son and dog. In truth, I wouldn't want to be he kind of person who had a lot of friends as I really wouldn't have the time or commitment to keep in touch with them all.
Any answers would be welcome. I was once a member of a martial arts club and that was good for a while. But I found myself disappointed with the friends I had there and also didn't really think that the friendships were even sided, so I quit. I'd also gone too fat from wayyy too much working overtime in my day job so that didn't help either! ;)
Thanks.
R
Find new friends at Forty?
I've made good friends offline from people i met on social sites online...also any hobby, volunteer work, classes, etc that may interest you have the potential of people being there that may be friend-material for you.
Are there PTA meetings at your child's school? Perhaps a parent whose child also attends your child's school, would be a potential friend.
There are many ways to meet people...join online groups/websites that cater to people who have interests common to yours...look up groups online that focus on your local area. Scan your Sunday paper for clubs or groups that meet around your area. Perhaps there's something you'd be interested in investigating (a car club, a card playing group, charitable organization, etc).
Good luck!
Reply:Every town, even the small ones, have their share of older people. Offer your help to someone who may need it. You may be surprised to find someone who may not be as able to "get around" easily, but could be an interesting person to spend some time with in conversation. They may even want to go to a movie. And, more important, it should not be a threat to your wife.
Reply:I'm in the same boat and its hard....everyone tells me to find new interests or go to church...well, I'm not into church and its hard to find new interests at 40 when you are a single parent....if you get some good answers, let me know!!!
Friends..are they leaving me ??help??how can i find new ones????????
im in a group of 4 friends
they are al my best friends, but they always seem to have so much more fun without me =/
while i was on vacation they all got together and had a blast and i asked watd you guys do and they said had fun
and it seems like they are giving me the cold shoulder
no one calls anymore
on aim they never say hi
and they make plans without me
is it time to move on?
and ive been nice to them and didnt do anything to make them hate me =/
also for eachtoerhs birthdays they are al excited and plan ahead..but mines coming up in a few days and they havent even said a word :*(
This year they have all the same classes together, bbut me
i feel left out
also it cant be a surprise party because im going to have one
:[
lifes unfair.
Friends..are they leaving me ??help??how can i find new ones????????
Perhaps it is time to move on. You've been able to make close friends before, you'll be able to do so again. Just be friendly and you'll soon be surrounded by a new group of friends in no time. Life is unfair, but it is also very tricksy and everyone will get what they deserve in the end. Keep your chin up and go forth. You can do it! good luck!
teeth
they are al my best friends, but they always seem to have so much more fun without me =/
while i was on vacation they all got together and had a blast and i asked watd you guys do and they said had fun
and it seems like they are giving me the cold shoulder
no one calls anymore
on aim they never say hi
and they make plans without me
is it time to move on?
and ive been nice to them and didnt do anything to make them hate me =/
also for eachtoerhs birthdays they are al excited and plan ahead..but mines coming up in a few days and they havent even said a word :*(
This year they have all the same classes together, bbut me
i feel left out
also it cant be a surprise party because im going to have one
:[
lifes unfair.
Friends..are they leaving me ??help??how can i find new ones????????
Perhaps it is time to move on. You've been able to make close friends before, you'll be able to do so again. Just be friendly and you'll soon be surrounded by a new group of friends in no time. Life is unfair, but it is also very tricksy and everyone will get what they deserve in the end. Keep your chin up and go forth. You can do it! good luck!
teeth
Me and this girl are really close friends and we are both scared we won't find someone else closer?
Me and my friend, we have a history, we used to be together for a few months. And since then we grew really close. We talk all the time, every single day. I don't like her more then as a friend. But I get sad imagining her with someone else. Also, when I imagine myself with someone else, I can never imagine myself being closer and more comfortable with someone else more then with my friend. Me and my friend share many secrets.
So my question is, that when I meet someone I love and loves me, I will automatically be really close with her right?
And by the way, I know it seems like I have feelings for my friend, but I don't. I am just worried if I will ever find a girl that I can get really close with and share secrets with and be really comfortable around. I can't imagine myself being more closer to anyone but my friend. And she feels the same way.
Help, thanks.
Me and this girl are really close friends and we are both scared we won't find someone else closer?
You're right, it does sound like you have feelings for her. I think the reason you are so close to her is because you are craving the emotional intimacy that comes from a relationship. This is going to sound harsh but I'm going to assume you came here for the direct truth... you have to start pulling away from her. The reasons being: 1.When you do find someone she is not going to appreciate sharing you with a woman you speak of in the manner you do. 2. Just because you don't have those feelings doesn't mean she doesn't and she could be devastated if you are with someone else. 3. The longer you have this need fulfilled from her, your growth is being stunted. Maybe you keep this friendship so you don't have to be vulnerable and open with a new person.
Good luck!
Reply:I think your feelings for her as a friend only but feeling sad thinking of her with someone else is more or less worrying for her as your very best friend in this world. You feel sad for her if she gets hurt or is upset as any friend would for a true friend. I think you have a very unique relationship and it's awesome! That special woman for you is out there and she must accept your relationship with your best friend as part of you or she isn't worth it. Same rules apply to your best friend. I think this is really sweet and your concern and sincerity is really refreshing. I hope you both find that perfect someone that completes you and that is totally accepting of your best friend.
Reply:you do have feelings for your friend. may be this is not what you would call a crazy love, but she might just be a real love of your life, you just haven't realized it yet. and no, you won't be automatically close to a girl you fall for. you may as well just break up and come back to your friend.
Reply:You will be able to get close to someone again, but it will take time just like it did with her. It is also hard to get closer to someone when you already have a "confidante" (sp). You may wish to not be as close to her so when you do meet someone it will be easier to open up to them.
Reply:this one is hard to answer. i was close to my husband before he asked me out and i thought that he was the biggest dork ever but after a while i fell in love with him. my thought to you is this stop worrying once you do that maybe the girl of your dreams with say hello or maybe you already have the girl.
Reply:What do you "think" love is, whatever it is, it is what you have with your friend.
It is the best type of love you can and will ever get in life.
It is unconditonal love.
Wake up to yourselves and just admit it.
You are both still in love with each other.
All the best,
Fai
Reply:when you find someone that you like as more than a friend you will know and the bond will be just as strong if not stronger than the one you have now with your current friend. but you cant think that way, because if you think that you will never be that close to anyone, you will block people out without knowing. all you have to do is give it a chance. and the reason that it gets you sad to image you or her with someone else is because you probably think that it wont be the same after that or that you dont like the idea of someone taking your place.
or maybe you like her as more than a friend.
but are u sure that you only like her as a friend?
if you are then be glad you have such a good friend and dont do anything to harm that friendship, caus eonce you do it will never be the same again.
Reply:See http://www.howtodealwithabreakup.com
So my question is, that when I meet someone I love and loves me, I will automatically be really close with her right?
And by the way, I know it seems like I have feelings for my friend, but I don't. I am just worried if I will ever find a girl that I can get really close with and share secrets with and be really comfortable around. I can't imagine myself being more closer to anyone but my friend. And she feels the same way.
Help, thanks.
Me and this girl are really close friends and we are both scared we won't find someone else closer?
You're right, it does sound like you have feelings for her. I think the reason you are so close to her is because you are craving the emotional intimacy that comes from a relationship. This is going to sound harsh but I'm going to assume you came here for the direct truth... you have to start pulling away from her. The reasons being: 1.When you do find someone she is not going to appreciate sharing you with a woman you speak of in the manner you do. 2. Just because you don't have those feelings doesn't mean she doesn't and she could be devastated if you are with someone else. 3. The longer you have this need fulfilled from her, your growth is being stunted. Maybe you keep this friendship so you don't have to be vulnerable and open with a new person.
Good luck!
Reply:I think your feelings for her as a friend only but feeling sad thinking of her with someone else is more or less worrying for her as your very best friend in this world. You feel sad for her if she gets hurt or is upset as any friend would for a true friend. I think you have a very unique relationship and it's awesome! That special woman for you is out there and she must accept your relationship with your best friend as part of you or she isn't worth it. Same rules apply to your best friend. I think this is really sweet and your concern and sincerity is really refreshing. I hope you both find that perfect someone that completes you and that is totally accepting of your best friend.
Reply:you do have feelings for your friend. may be this is not what you would call a crazy love, but she might just be a real love of your life, you just haven't realized it yet. and no, you won't be automatically close to a girl you fall for. you may as well just break up and come back to your friend.
Reply:You will be able to get close to someone again, but it will take time just like it did with her. It is also hard to get closer to someone when you already have a "confidante" (sp). You may wish to not be as close to her so when you do meet someone it will be easier to open up to them.
Reply:this one is hard to answer. i was close to my husband before he asked me out and i thought that he was the biggest dork ever but after a while i fell in love with him. my thought to you is this stop worrying once you do that maybe the girl of your dreams with say hello or maybe you already have the girl.
Reply:What do you "think" love is, whatever it is, it is what you have with your friend.
It is the best type of love you can and will ever get in life.
It is unconditonal love.
Wake up to yourselves and just admit it.
You are both still in love with each other.
All the best,
Fai
Reply:when you find someone that you like as more than a friend you will know and the bond will be just as strong if not stronger than the one you have now with your current friend. but you cant think that way, because if you think that you will never be that close to anyone, you will block people out without knowing. all you have to do is give it a chance. and the reason that it gets you sad to image you or her with someone else is because you probably think that it wont be the same after that or that you dont like the idea of someone taking your place.
or maybe you like her as more than a friend.
but are u sure that you only like her as a friend?
if you are then be glad you have such a good friend and dont do anything to harm that friendship, caus eonce you do it will never be the same again.
Reply:See http://www.howtodealwithabreakup.com
Do you like your current friends, where can i find like minded people?
Do you like your current bunch of friends?, i have 3 groups of friends i see from time to time, i don't enjoy any of their company, they are all quite boring to me, the first group is my engineering friends from university, they are boring as hell but financially on my level. The second group of friends are some IT guys, they are a bit more fun but still boring as hell. The last group consists of 3 people that could be labelled as misfits\loosers, they are a bit more fun to hang around with, they are not pretentious etc., but they are not very intellectual or financially on the same level as me...
i would describe myself as a slightly intellectual person, a bit cynical, a dark, dry sense of humour, a bit philosophical and solemn, a person with no fixed identity or ego.
I am 25, and don't have any friends i enjoy hanging out with.
Do you like your current friends, where can i find like minded people?
You sound like me. I had friends when I was working at a hospital. We would work the 3-11 shift and then go out to eat or at a bar after work.
Then I had kids and quit working, big mistake. Then my kids were my life for 20 plus years. So as you see, I am up there. My girls are 24 %26amp; 19.
But then I started getting involved in church with a group that a few of us just started, like a book club and we did more talking about other stuff and got to be good friends. That was quite a few years ago and we still hang out, well, if you mean going out for lunch or getting together to watch a movie or make cookies. The are all in the church choir too and finally got me to join and it is really fun, a great bunch of people and I love singing. I actually like them better than my family sometimes. Well, I suppose you didn't want to hear about churchy stuff. But they accepted me for who I was and we are all different.
If you are only 25 is is ok to not have a fixed identity yet because you don't know where your place is in the world at that age. You just have to keep trying new things.
Reply:Very hard my friend.You cant find them, They must be obtain.
Reply:There are few who qualify as the perfect friend and once you find one you have to be careful not to make a martyr of them. No human being is perfect but we all have a side I think you'ld be interested to know if you look at them...not yourself. We're all different. And if you did find someone that's exactly like you...trust me, you won't like him....no offence intended.
i would describe myself as a slightly intellectual person, a bit cynical, a dark, dry sense of humour, a bit philosophical and solemn, a person with no fixed identity or ego.
I am 25, and don't have any friends i enjoy hanging out with.
Do you like your current friends, where can i find like minded people?
You sound like me. I had friends when I was working at a hospital. We would work the 3-11 shift and then go out to eat or at a bar after work.
Then I had kids and quit working, big mistake. Then my kids were my life for 20 plus years. So as you see, I am up there. My girls are 24 %26amp; 19.
But then I started getting involved in church with a group that a few of us just started, like a book club and we did more talking about other stuff and got to be good friends. That was quite a few years ago and we still hang out, well, if you mean going out for lunch or getting together to watch a movie or make cookies. The are all in the church choir too and finally got me to join and it is really fun, a great bunch of people and I love singing. I actually like them better than my family sometimes. Well, I suppose you didn't want to hear about churchy stuff. But they accepted me for who I was and we are all different.
If you are only 25 is is ok to not have a fixed identity yet because you don't know where your place is in the world at that age. You just have to keep trying new things.
Reply:Very hard my friend.You cant find them, They must be obtain.
Reply:There are few who qualify as the perfect friend and once you find one you have to be careful not to make a martyr of them. No human being is perfect but we all have a side I think you'ld be interested to know if you look at them...not yourself. We're all different. And if you did find someone that's exactly like you...trust me, you won't like him....no offence intended.
I cant find friends?
i dont have friends, i wanna go out sometimes on weekends, to the club or a bar, but i dont wanna go by myself. i wish i had females friends that i can call and they would call me and hang out all weekend with, but i dont. what should i do? i have male friends, and go out with them, but its not the same, guys wont even approach me cos they think "my friend" is my date or my man :(
I cant find friends?
YOu can find girlfriends at a salon, church, the library, the gym, lots of places, talk to some people, let them know you are looking for people to hang out with. Workout buddy ect. Friendships will develop, just give it time.
Reply:Hi Angelina N...
Why don't you go to Diana's Yahoo! Question and take advantage of her offer to have friends online.
You can start an online friendship with her...
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
Reply:go out and make friends.
Reply:YOU NEED TO BE MORE COMFORTABLE WITH GOING OUT BY YOURSELF... YOU'LL FIND FRIENDS EVENTUALLY
Reply:Maybe you should try going out alone, maybe you will be approached by a guy that is interested in you as more than a friend and that won't be afraid to talk to you because there is another guy around. Having friends that are guys is not a bad thing, trust me, just don't show signs to everyone else that says that you are together. If you are having problems finding friends that are girls than maybe you should try talking to someone who is a female at the local coffee shop or a gym. Walking up to a girl and starting a convo by saying hi is just the same as walking up to a guy to start a convo and becoming friends, just don't be afraid to have to say the first hello.
Reply:just join groups and you'll meet lots of friends :)
I cant find friends?
YOu can find girlfriends at a salon, church, the library, the gym, lots of places, talk to some people, let them know you are looking for people to hang out with. Workout buddy ect. Friendships will develop, just give it time.
Reply:Hi Angelina N...
Why don't you go to Diana's Yahoo! Question and take advantage of her offer to have friends online.
You can start an online friendship with her...
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
Reply:go out and make friends.
Reply:YOU NEED TO BE MORE COMFORTABLE WITH GOING OUT BY YOURSELF... YOU'LL FIND FRIENDS EVENTUALLY
Reply:Maybe you should try going out alone, maybe you will be approached by a guy that is interested in you as more than a friend and that won't be afraid to talk to you because there is another guy around. Having friends that are guys is not a bad thing, trust me, just don't show signs to everyone else that says that you are together. If you are having problems finding friends that are girls than maybe you should try talking to someone who is a female at the local coffee shop or a gym. Walking up to a girl and starting a convo by saying hi is just the same as walking up to a guy to start a convo and becoming friends, just don't be afraid to have to say the first hello.
Reply:just join groups and you'll meet lots of friends :)
How can I find good friends?
I know this questions is very vague but basically, the friends which I had in the past were not my real friends at all. They said many rude things to me to my face and behind my back, they did not respect me or my family and they were not there for me when I needed them. I have a few friends whom I can trust. How can you know for sure if someone is a good friend or not? Those girls I thought were my real friends, then 5 years later I learned otherwise.
How can I find good friends?
I think that is true with most people. Some of the people that were my friends, I would not give the time of day to now or just would not care to be around them. I think a close friend is someone you can just talk to on the phone for a half hour or so and not really expect anything out of each other. I think most people do not really have that many close friends. We think we do but we do not. I have aprox. 3 close girlfriends and probably 3 or 4 guys that I consider good friends where they would not feel surprised if I were to call them out of the blue. Then I have other friends that I enjoy being with and it is just that we only see each other 3 or 4 times a year.
Reply:It’s a horrible thing to say, but just watch your back. Even to my really good friends I watch what I say, because I don’t want it coming back to bite me in the butt. But if you want to see if you have good friends look at how they treat others or what they say about others behind their backs, because those are the same things they are probably saying about you. But overall use your gut intuition.
Reply:You have good friends right here on Yahoo Answers.
MJ
Reply:Make new friends here contact me I will be your friend.
Reply:don't try to find good friends,they will find you :)
Reply:you have to be a good friend to have one and if you find just one in your life you are very lucky
Reply:u dont know, u feel.
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How can I find good friends?
I think that is true with most people. Some of the people that were my friends, I would not give the time of day to now or just would not care to be around them. I think a close friend is someone you can just talk to on the phone for a half hour or so and not really expect anything out of each other. I think most people do not really have that many close friends. We think we do but we do not. I have aprox. 3 close girlfriends and probably 3 or 4 guys that I consider good friends where they would not feel surprised if I were to call them out of the blue. Then I have other friends that I enjoy being with and it is just that we only see each other 3 or 4 times a year.
Reply:It’s a horrible thing to say, but just watch your back. Even to my really good friends I watch what I say, because I don’t want it coming back to bite me in the butt. But if you want to see if you have good friends look at how they treat others or what they say about others behind their backs, because those are the same things they are probably saying about you. But overall use your gut intuition.
Reply:You have good friends right here on Yahoo Answers.
MJ
Reply:Make new friends here contact me I will be your friend.
Reply:don't try to find good friends,they will find you :)
Reply:you have to be a good friend to have one and if you find just one in your life you are very lucky
Reply:u dont know, u feel.
teeth grinding
Where do you find true friends?
i have a good amount of friends and im a friendly and open minded to everyone. but sometimes i feel down and i want to express myself or i need opinions but my friends arnt the ones i feel comfortable talking to. i want a person, any person guy or girl who i could have a shoulder to lean on, basically a best friend. i feel i would do anything for my friends but not if there not gonna do the same back. im pretty much different than most of my friends, we have a lot of fun but i just cant fully trust them.
Where do you find true friends?
Aw...I know what you mean! It's not easy to find decent people you can trust when you're young. Chances are, the people you consider your "friends" will not be by your side in 10 years or even just a few years time. You can never truly be sure about people, and it's not your fault, it's just the way things are. People are all different and have different priorities, some are selfish and only look out for their best interests, these people are not worth your time, BELIEVE me!
You only need friends in your life that prove they want you in theirs. Be around great people. Your friends reflect who you are...Don't panic too much, if you feel like you don't have any real friends now, it's not the end of the world. Give it time. If you're still in highschool you still have PLENTY of time during college and working to meet different people and find good, loyal, trusty friends! Be true to yourself, I think that's the number one thing.
Reply:Trust is a very hard thing to get for other people. Best friends are just as difficult to find as trust is in others. Basically, to have a best friend, you have to be able to be one yourself. And if you can be one yourself then your apt to find someone else that would also feel the same way and be a best friend back. They say to have 5 real true friends at the end of your lifetime is very rare. but, it does happen. Sometimes you have to take risks to find those you can trust and it may be in someone you least expect to find it in.
Reply:You can't look for them; you can't put out an ad for lifelong friends. You have to meet people and speak with them and determine on an individual basis who is worth your trust. I don't know how old you are, but it is said that people form many lasting relationships in college and in the years immediately following.
Reply:By what your saying, I'd say that you definitely need to find a few new friends (you dont have to eliminate the old ones), maybe find someone with similar interests who you don't have to be around all the time, someone who sits next to you in a few classes maybe, maybe a cousin
Someone you can just generally bond with
Reply:Relationships must be cultivated and nurtured, like a beautiful garden. Clearly you have more depth than your "friends". As you go through life, you'll meet many interesting people. Keep your mind open to all the beauty contained therein.
Reply:Well you'll find a girl that you really click with sooner or later.
You have to build that trust its normal don't worry.
I don't trust many people either - matter of fact don't talk to my so called "friends" about anything personal.
Friends have come and go out of my life - and I am already use to it.
Reply:If you ever want to discuss things, can always talk to me. I'm generally good at that I think, listening to people and such. Just send me an email or something if you feel the need and we can talk about whatever is on your mind.
Better yet if you got messenger:
aim: ajkleist23
yahoo: adamjk2005
Reply:you can't find a best Friend like this easy... and try to talk to your friends and tell them how u feel... but do not use the internet to find freinds... believe me in the hard bad moments you will know who is your freind and who is not...
Reply:I'm not sure how old you are but anyone is lucky to have even one "best" friend, who they can talk to and trust with anything. When you do find them cherish them and be the same kind of friend to them that they are to you
Reply:friends are very hard 2 find (true ones), the're like a diamonds........if u have a hobby or something or u play a sport maybe u can find true friends there co'z maybe you can relate to them.........or if you want someone to listen to you......i can
Reply:"where do you find true friends? "
Anywhere, a bus station, the grocery store, a parade, Disneyland, it doesn't matter. What matters is finding someone YOU click with, that's it!
Reply:the true friends you can know him when you have no good times or when you have a big problem.
Reply:You just need to look around. And see from them being there for you through thick and thin. Like a true friendship is always does.
Reply:You can find friends at the funeral home because they're dying to please you. Sorry I couldn't resist.
Reply:real friends are everywhere!the fact is to have good chemistry with a friend!
Reply:Be more socialable, become friends with your friends friends, you will soon find a true friend. Don't worry
Reply:They will show up towards the last part of your life.....the ones who last..
Reply:True Friends are found through life experiences and time.
Reply:im had two mates for 20 years,
Reply:Myspace
myspace.com
Reply:Well, first thing's first. You can't just go out and find a good friend. You have to build relationships with others around you first. You have to understand that not everyone is perfect and some people aren't very good at comforting. If you give people time and really grow close to them, then you'll feel the comfort you're looking for.
Now that that's said, I have some tricks in sorting through a crowd of people and picking out someone with a good heart; not that hard to find in people these days, especially the young.
I'm always kind of the new kid in school, so the ones that come up to me first and introduce themselves are going to be the better ones to hang around with until you understand the status quo and who does what.
If you're not put in that position it can be harder. You have to listen to yourself; if you meet a person and you feel inclined to spend more time with him or her then do it. Don't doubt yourself because he or she isn't the prettiest thing around or even the nicest. Anyone can break a shell, they just need patience, time, and they need to truly care about this person.
If you want to look for someone that's going to share some hobbies that you have, sign up for some classes down at your local community center or join clubs at school. Do something different with your time and you'll meet different people.
There are millions and millions and trillions different people out there and at LEAST one of them should be able to be there for you if you give them the chance.
Good Luck!
Where do you find true friends?
Aw...I know what you mean! It's not easy to find decent people you can trust when you're young. Chances are, the people you consider your "friends" will not be by your side in 10 years or even just a few years time. You can never truly be sure about people, and it's not your fault, it's just the way things are. People are all different and have different priorities, some are selfish and only look out for their best interests, these people are not worth your time, BELIEVE me!
You only need friends in your life that prove they want you in theirs. Be around great people. Your friends reflect who you are...Don't panic too much, if you feel like you don't have any real friends now, it's not the end of the world. Give it time. If you're still in highschool you still have PLENTY of time during college and working to meet different people and find good, loyal, trusty friends! Be true to yourself, I think that's the number one thing.
Reply:Trust is a very hard thing to get for other people. Best friends are just as difficult to find as trust is in others. Basically, to have a best friend, you have to be able to be one yourself. And if you can be one yourself then your apt to find someone else that would also feel the same way and be a best friend back. They say to have 5 real true friends at the end of your lifetime is very rare. but, it does happen. Sometimes you have to take risks to find those you can trust and it may be in someone you least expect to find it in.
Reply:You can't look for them; you can't put out an ad for lifelong friends. You have to meet people and speak with them and determine on an individual basis who is worth your trust. I don't know how old you are, but it is said that people form many lasting relationships in college and in the years immediately following.
Reply:By what your saying, I'd say that you definitely need to find a few new friends (you dont have to eliminate the old ones), maybe find someone with similar interests who you don't have to be around all the time, someone who sits next to you in a few classes maybe, maybe a cousin
Someone you can just generally bond with
Reply:Relationships must be cultivated and nurtured, like a beautiful garden. Clearly you have more depth than your "friends". As you go through life, you'll meet many interesting people. Keep your mind open to all the beauty contained therein.
Reply:Well you'll find a girl that you really click with sooner or later.
You have to build that trust its normal don't worry.
I don't trust many people either - matter of fact don't talk to my so called "friends" about anything personal.
Friends have come and go out of my life - and I am already use to it.
Reply:If you ever want to discuss things, can always talk to me. I'm generally good at that I think, listening to people and such. Just send me an email or something if you feel the need and we can talk about whatever is on your mind.
Better yet if you got messenger:
aim: ajkleist23
yahoo: adamjk2005
Reply:you can't find a best Friend like this easy... and try to talk to your friends and tell them how u feel... but do not use the internet to find freinds... believe me in the hard bad moments you will know who is your freind and who is not...
Reply:I'm not sure how old you are but anyone is lucky to have even one "best" friend, who they can talk to and trust with anything. When you do find them cherish them and be the same kind of friend to them that they are to you
Reply:friends are very hard 2 find (true ones), the're like a diamonds........if u have a hobby or something or u play a sport maybe u can find true friends there co'z maybe you can relate to them.........or if you want someone to listen to you......i can
Reply:"where do you find true friends? "
Anywhere, a bus station, the grocery store, a parade, Disneyland, it doesn't matter. What matters is finding someone YOU click with, that's it!
Reply:the true friends you can know him when you have no good times or when you have a big problem.
Reply:You just need to look around. And see from them being there for you through thick and thin. Like a true friendship is always does.
Reply:You can find friends at the funeral home because they're dying to please you. Sorry I couldn't resist.
Reply:real friends are everywhere!the fact is to have good chemistry with a friend!
Reply:Be more socialable, become friends with your friends friends, you will soon find a true friend. Don't worry
Reply:They will show up towards the last part of your life.....the ones who last..
Reply:True Friends are found through life experiences and time.
Reply:im had two mates for 20 years,
Reply:Myspace
myspace.com
Reply:Well, first thing's first. You can't just go out and find a good friend. You have to build relationships with others around you first. You have to understand that not everyone is perfect and some people aren't very good at comforting. If you give people time and really grow close to them, then you'll feel the comfort you're looking for.
Now that that's said, I have some tricks in sorting through a crowd of people and picking out someone with a good heart; not that hard to find in people these days, especially the young.
I'm always kind of the new kid in school, so the ones that come up to me first and introduce themselves are going to be the better ones to hang around with until you understand the status quo and who does what.
If you're not put in that position it can be harder. You have to listen to yourself; if you meet a person and you feel inclined to spend more time with him or her then do it. Don't doubt yourself because he or she isn't the prettiest thing around or even the nicest. Anyone can break a shell, they just need patience, time, and they need to truly care about this person.
If you want to look for someone that's going to share some hobbies that you have, sign up for some classes down at your local community center or join clubs at school. Do something different with your time and you'll meet different people.
There are millions and millions and trillions different people out there and at LEAST one of them should be able to be there for you if you give them the chance.
Good Luck!
My "friends" are being brats, how do I find new ones???
They totally never want to hang out even though I ask them too. They barely ever call me. They always talk about me behind my back...and sometimes right in front of me. They insult me a lot and they always brag about hanging out with all of their other friends. I know what you're thinking..."What did you do to them?" My honest answer-nothing. I've been trying to be real nice to them and be their friend, but then they think that they can do whatever they want because I'm a suck-up. Plus they think the world revolves around them. I'm stuck! I know I should get new friends...but it's not that easy. There's cheerleaders, I'm not one, there's emo people, I'm not. I don't fit in anywhere else. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!
My "friends" are being brats, how do I find new ones???
You have analyzed your own situation quite well. Your friends suck! It is better to be alone than having them as friends. One reason I say that, is when you hang out with them or try to, others watching you think you are like them, and maybe staying away from you because of that.. So, stay alone for a while. Become very sharp. Open your eyes and ears and notice things around you. You will notice someone or someones who you like very much or admire for their characteristics. Seek people who are like you or like the kind of person you want to be.
Now, the next part can be hard or tricky. Become noticed by the way you are or by the kindness and understanding you display to others. And become really good at something. People will become drawn to you.
The last part is very easy. Don't try to get a friend. Just follow numbers one and two above the moment will come when you will have just the right ones around you. How will you know and how will you be noticed? And this is the easy part; you just will.
Reply:Same thing happened to me.It makes you regret becoming friends with them. I call them "frenemies" . I don't really fit in either...i'm friends with certain people in different groups. I know its not easy but talk to more people in one group that don't "fit in "either( you're not the only one in a whole school) and just have fun and be yourself. After I left those girls I feel stress- free now
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A huge dating service - thousands of members (like me and some friends) looking for friends, marriage, even bible-study.
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Reply:yea they're definetely not your friends..friends are people you can count on and they'll always be there for you..i know its hard to make friends either your too shy or maybe you feel as if you dont fit in...but just know that your prob. not the only one having this problem...just find someone..it doesnt matter if theyre popular or unpopular cause that doesnt really matter..but just find someone you can get along with and someone whod be there for you no matter what..im soo thankful to have my friends..but it was hard to finally know who my true friends are..but once you do find them you can never forget about them...just know that..
i hoped i helped..plus hey ill be your friend..if you want to talk ill be here! =]
Reply:http://www.friends.com
Reply:just walk up to someone that you want to be friends with. make sure you always have extra friends though just in case they turn out to be jerks!
Reply:well....I'll be your new friend ...if you want...lol...ok
Reply:idk go hang out with the nerds im pretty sure they can be fun
Reply:join together and look at yourselfs;)
Reply:either ride it out, go hang with the 'unpopular kids', or switch schools. or maybe you could join a class like karate or dance or something and make friends outside of school.
My "friends" are being brats, how do I find new ones???
You have analyzed your own situation quite well. Your friends suck! It is better to be alone than having them as friends. One reason I say that, is when you hang out with them or try to, others watching you think you are like them, and maybe staying away from you because of that.. So, stay alone for a while. Become very sharp. Open your eyes and ears and notice things around you. You will notice someone or someones who you like very much or admire for their characteristics. Seek people who are like you or like the kind of person you want to be.
Now, the next part can be hard or tricky. Become noticed by the way you are or by the kindness and understanding you display to others. And become really good at something. People will become drawn to you.
The last part is very easy. Don't try to get a friend. Just follow numbers one and two above the moment will come when you will have just the right ones around you. How will you know and how will you be noticed? And this is the easy part; you just will.
Reply:Same thing happened to me.It makes you regret becoming friends with them. I call them "frenemies" . I don't really fit in either...i'm friends with certain people in different groups. I know its not easy but talk to more people in one group that don't "fit in "either( you're not the only one in a whole school) and just have fun and be yourself. After I left those girls I feel stress- free now
Reply:Go to: %26lt;--http://family-relationships.info/getgirl...
Learn How To Approach Any Woman, Anywhere And Know Exactly What To Say To Get Her To Give You Her Number And Go On A Date With You - NOW
I do surf on a christian singles site that is the best I ever found.
A huge dating service - thousands of members (like me and some friends) looking for friends, marriage, even bible-study.
The site has a searchable emails, chatrooms, and more.
Check it from the source%26lt;--http://family-relationships.info/friendf...
Reply:yea they're definetely not your friends..friends are people you can count on and they'll always be there for you..i know its hard to make friends either your too shy or maybe you feel as if you dont fit in...but just know that your prob. not the only one having this problem...just find someone..it doesnt matter if theyre popular or unpopular cause that doesnt really matter..but just find someone you can get along with and someone whod be there for you no matter what..im soo thankful to have my friends..but it was hard to finally know who my true friends are..but once you do find them you can never forget about them...just know that..
i hoped i helped..plus hey ill be your friend..if you want to talk ill be here! =]
Reply:http://www.friends.com
Reply:just walk up to someone that you want to be friends with. make sure you always have extra friends though just in case they turn out to be jerks!
Reply:well....I'll be your new friend ...if you want...lol...ok
Reply:idk go hang out with the nerds im pretty sure they can be fun
Reply:join together and look at yourselfs;)
Reply:either ride it out, go hang with the 'unpopular kids', or switch schools. or maybe you could join a class like karate or dance or something and make friends outside of school.
Do you like your current friends, where can i find like minded people?
Do you like your current bunch of friends?, i have 3 groups of friends i see from time to time, i don't enjoy any of their company, they are all quite boring to me, the first group is my engineering friends from university, they are boring as hell but financially on my level. The second group of friends are some IT guys, they are a bit more fun but still boring as hell. The last group consists of 3 people that could be labelled as misfits\loosers, they are a bit more fun to hang around with, they are not pretentious etc., but they are not very intellectual or financially on the same level as me...
i would describe myself as a slightly intellectual person, a bit cynical, a dark, dry sense of humour, a bit philosophical and solemn, a person with no fixed identity or ego.
I am 25, and don't have any friends i enjoy hanging out with.
Do you like your current friends, where can i find like minded people?
Sometimes its okay to meet people that are not like you because you can show or teach them new things. Just go with the flow, if you happen to like someone who does not have the same qualitites you have, it's okay...just have fun.
Reply:you sound like a lot of the people who go to science fiction conventions, and like some who go to comics conventions.
No insult intended - these are my people.
Reply:try to be the one like what you call a "minded" one and surely, you'll attract some of them. don't try to boast what you have when you have nothing!
Reply:where do you live? join groups or go to the pub or meet people at places you enjoy to go to aswell
Reply:I like my current friends, who to my amazement, think I've been a great asset to them. I say this because I've been quite introverted, and it took having a stronger relationship with God and His Son Jesus to pull me out of that "shell".
You need to be around people who can challenge that introverted, solemn side of you and be a mentor/asset to others. This will draw people to you and find more in common. To make friends, you have to show yourself as friendly- but choose wisely. Having a relationship with the Lord, will let Him show YOU what you were meant to be, your still untapped potential, and good self-esteem.
Reply:I'm saying this in the nicest possible way with a genuine desire to help you. Have you ever considered the possibility that the problem is internal and not external. Would you be at all interested to know what these people that you find so boring thought of you, and if you found somebody who was intellectually superior to you, would you not just dismiss them as a opinionated snob. Good luck with your quest and above all seek the truth even if it means your ego gets a slap
i would describe myself as a slightly intellectual person, a bit cynical, a dark, dry sense of humour, a bit philosophical and solemn, a person with no fixed identity or ego.
I am 25, and don't have any friends i enjoy hanging out with.
Do you like your current friends, where can i find like minded people?
Sometimes its okay to meet people that are not like you because you can show or teach them new things. Just go with the flow, if you happen to like someone who does not have the same qualitites you have, it's okay...just have fun.
Reply:you sound like a lot of the people who go to science fiction conventions, and like some who go to comics conventions.
No insult intended - these are my people.
Reply:try to be the one like what you call a "minded" one and surely, you'll attract some of them. don't try to boast what you have when you have nothing!
Reply:where do you live? join groups or go to the pub or meet people at places you enjoy to go to aswell
Reply:I like my current friends, who to my amazement, think I've been a great asset to them. I say this because I've been quite introverted, and it took having a stronger relationship with God and His Son Jesus to pull me out of that "shell".
You need to be around people who can challenge that introverted, solemn side of you and be a mentor/asset to others. This will draw people to you and find more in common. To make friends, you have to show yourself as friendly- but choose wisely. Having a relationship with the Lord, will let Him show YOU what you were meant to be, your still untapped potential, and good self-esteem.
Reply:I'm saying this in the nicest possible way with a genuine desire to help you. Have you ever considered the possibility that the problem is internal and not external. Would you be at all interested to know what these people that you find so boring thought of you, and if you found somebody who was intellectually superior to you, would you not just dismiss them as a opinionated snob. Good luck with your quest and above all seek the truth even if it means your ego gets a slap
Why is it so hard for me to find friends?
In high school I had lots of friend. More friends than I had time for. Now, I am 25 year old and have no friends other than my husband and my mom. When I married 4 years ago, my husband and I moved away and I lost all touch with my old friends (they live too far away to spend time with now anyway)...I went through 4 years of college, joined clubs, etc and never made more than a casual acquainteance- after class was over, we never spoke again. Same with my co-workers.
I really am a nice, caring person, I just don't understand why I can't make friends outside of work or school. I really want a friend or two that I can spend time with and talk to on the phone. I am so embarrassed that I am 25 and my only friend is my husband. My husband has even made new friends. Why is it so hard for me??
Why is it so hard for me to find friends?
well it may be due to new atmosphere but i think that your real problem is that shyness. you only told that at most you have been acquaintance, right. so why don't you go forward and give a start than wait for anyone else to approach and see your caring nature. good luck
Reply:Get out girl!! Friends will not just fall into your lap- you need to go out and find them! Go for it!
Reply:STOP trying so hard!! Just be yourself and learn how to be a friend to yourself as well. This may sound cliche to be a friend is to be one.
If its true friends you want, STOP LOOKING - they will find you when you dont go looking for it. You cant search for it cause you'll never find it!
Develop new interests and hobbies - it'll increase your chances of meeting new people for potential friendships who will shares the same values/beliefs in life!
you can try church, volunteer, gym/recreational sports, professional associations/clubs like hiking/photography,
www.meetup.com
www.meetin.org
http://torontolinkup.com
www.newcomersclub.com
good luck!
Reply:not really sure ,but when you need them some how there all ways around, thanks gys,
Reply:i know i'm 4 yrs younger, but someone told me that the older you get the less friends you have. i'm sure you'll find some good friends. good luck!
Reply:i had this when i had my little girl, youre not alone there, thing is i make friends but they turn out to be nutters !!
I have a couple of mates now but i hardly see them, i have one who i would class as my best girl pal but thats it. Shes stuck by me through alot.
i only trust my husband hes my best friend and im glad :) maybe count your blessing s you have your hubby some people have noone. :)
Reply:maybe they don't like you try to remember you defects
Reply:Try asking your co workers out to lunch or maybe dinner at your place and if they are married invite their spouse.
Reply:I have the same problem you do. Quite honestly, I think women have a tougher time breaking into already formed female friendships. Women also tend to busy themselves more with family time - where guys will golf, watch sports, etc.
I've been trying to invite someone to lunch and shopping at least once a week - and not someone from work. Some of the women in my neighborhood recently started having Southern Living parties, so I went to one, and got invited back to another. But I have yet to connect with someone in friendship - so I know it's frustrating!
I just figure I'll keep trying and someday I'll find a good friend. My best friend lives in another state, and we stay in touch via instant messaging all day - which is nice.
Reply:Try getting out more and just introducing yourself to other people
Reply:What do you like to do? What hobbies do you like if you like to paint find a painting chat room , knitting what ever. And then ask if there are any fellow knitters in you area and go from there some time you have to reach out an make it happen . Good luck
teeth bleaching
I really am a nice, caring person, I just don't understand why I can't make friends outside of work or school. I really want a friend or two that I can spend time with and talk to on the phone. I am so embarrassed that I am 25 and my only friend is my husband. My husband has even made new friends. Why is it so hard for me??
Why is it so hard for me to find friends?
well it may be due to new atmosphere but i think that your real problem is that shyness. you only told that at most you have been acquaintance, right. so why don't you go forward and give a start than wait for anyone else to approach and see your caring nature. good luck
Reply:Get out girl!! Friends will not just fall into your lap- you need to go out and find them! Go for it!
Reply:STOP trying so hard!! Just be yourself and learn how to be a friend to yourself as well. This may sound cliche to be a friend is to be one.
If its true friends you want, STOP LOOKING - they will find you when you dont go looking for it. You cant search for it cause you'll never find it!
Develop new interests and hobbies - it'll increase your chances of meeting new people for potential friendships who will shares the same values/beliefs in life!
you can try church, volunteer, gym/recreational sports, professional associations/clubs like hiking/photography,
www.meetup.com
www.meetin.org
http://torontolinkup.com
www.newcomersclub.com
good luck!
Reply:not really sure ,but when you need them some how there all ways around, thanks gys,
Reply:i know i'm 4 yrs younger, but someone told me that the older you get the less friends you have. i'm sure you'll find some good friends. good luck!
Reply:i had this when i had my little girl, youre not alone there, thing is i make friends but they turn out to be nutters !!
I have a couple of mates now but i hardly see them, i have one who i would class as my best girl pal but thats it. Shes stuck by me through alot.
i only trust my husband hes my best friend and im glad :) maybe count your blessing s you have your hubby some people have noone. :)
Reply:maybe they don't like you try to remember you defects
Reply:Try asking your co workers out to lunch or maybe dinner at your place and if they are married invite their spouse.
Reply:I have the same problem you do. Quite honestly, I think women have a tougher time breaking into already formed female friendships. Women also tend to busy themselves more with family time - where guys will golf, watch sports, etc.
I've been trying to invite someone to lunch and shopping at least once a week - and not someone from work. Some of the women in my neighborhood recently started having Southern Living parties, so I went to one, and got invited back to another. But I have yet to connect with someone in friendship - so I know it's frustrating!
I just figure I'll keep trying and someday I'll find a good friend. My best friend lives in another state, and we stay in touch via instant messaging all day - which is nice.
Reply:Try getting out more and just introducing yourself to other people
Reply:What do you like to do? What hobbies do you like if you like to paint find a painting chat room , knitting what ever. And then ask if there are any fellow knitters in you area and go from there some time you have to reach out an make it happen . Good luck
teeth bleaching
How do i find new friends?
Okay you all will think i am crazy and i am sure i will get smarta** remarks but i need help. So far you all have been suportive and helpful with all my other questions. I don't have any friends and it hard me to make new ones. I am a very shy self constions person. Most people scare the hell out of me. Unfortally people on line are mostly liers and out for something. and I said most not all. How do i make friends when people scare me?
I love life, i love having fun, I like a lot of diffenent things. the friends i use to have injoyed my humor but they have all moved on and away. I love to smile and laugh, I am a good person, but i am a little wacky. Most people first opion of me is that i am crazy, but i am a nice person. I am suportive, non judgemental, and I get so excited for everyone and there news. I am a friend cheerleader. I just what the same in return is that to much to ask? I want a Friend.
How do i find new friends?
Everyone needs friends, and you're right, most people are wacky as hell! But you have to get out of your comfort zone and look at meeting people an opportunity to get comfortable outside your comfort zone. (Make sense?). I know it's hard, but you really have to put yourself out there. Your never going to meet a friend if you look at everyone negatively or you think they look at you weird. There is a friend for everyone. You just have to go out there find one. Try going to some hangout's around town and just start up some conversation, the worst that can happen is that you'll be right where you started, with no friends.
Try and see! Good luck!
Reply:wow....
I guess i sort of understand what u mean
Im usually really shy but i got past it somewhat but my theory is be urself if somone can't like u for being urself thats not a friend to have
My friends even though i was dead shy were great friends they liked me for who i was a quite reserved, yet sweet and funny person.......
And the truth is u have to try to reach out a lil' try to get past ur shyness thats what i did....
Reply:well your a cheerleader so im guessing your in highschool . you dont have freinds on the squad?
i dont think i can be much help but if you ever need to talk you can email me.- cassey
Reply:omg u sound exactly like me!
except i used to be rather popular and on top of things but thanks to a "friend" everyone now hates me cos hes been **** stirring! and it doesnt help that yea, like u, in shy, self concious and being ambushed doesnt help!!!
we need to stick 2geva!
good luck!xxx
I love life, i love having fun, I like a lot of diffenent things. the friends i use to have injoyed my humor but they have all moved on and away. I love to smile and laugh, I am a good person, but i am a little wacky. Most people first opion of me is that i am crazy, but i am a nice person. I am suportive, non judgemental, and I get so excited for everyone and there news. I am a friend cheerleader. I just what the same in return is that to much to ask? I want a Friend.
How do i find new friends?
Everyone needs friends, and you're right, most people are wacky as hell! But you have to get out of your comfort zone and look at meeting people an opportunity to get comfortable outside your comfort zone. (Make sense?). I know it's hard, but you really have to put yourself out there. Your never going to meet a friend if you look at everyone negatively or you think they look at you weird. There is a friend for everyone. You just have to go out there find one. Try going to some hangout's around town and just start up some conversation, the worst that can happen is that you'll be right where you started, with no friends.
Try and see! Good luck!
Reply:wow....
I guess i sort of understand what u mean
Im usually really shy but i got past it somewhat but my theory is be urself if somone can't like u for being urself thats not a friend to have
My friends even though i was dead shy were great friends they liked me for who i was a quite reserved, yet sweet and funny person.......
And the truth is u have to try to reach out a lil' try to get past ur shyness thats what i did....
Reply:well your a cheerleader so im guessing your in highschool . you dont have freinds on the squad?
i dont think i can be much help but if you ever need to talk you can email me.- cassey
Reply:omg u sound exactly like me!
except i used to be rather popular and on top of things but thanks to a "friend" everyone now hates me cos hes been **** stirring! and it doesnt help that yea, like u, in shy, self concious and being ambushed doesnt help!!!
we need to stick 2geva!
good luck!xxx
Should I just find new friends?
My husband recently was fired from his high-paying, high status position with a prominent fortune 500 company. (He was banging the help.) Until then, he had paraded me around many company functions and I became good friends with many of the other corporate wives. Now that I am in the middle of a very ugly divorce and my husband's reputation is shot. Many of the wives no longer care to associate with me, which is fine. However, many of the wives still want to support me through this difficult time. Some of their husbands don't want them around me - I'm not sure why. Others wives, I feel I don't want around me because I think they just want the latest gossip. But a few, I truly consider my friends and I feel they just want to help get me through the tough times. I don't have any family except my son so I cling to my faith and to my friends. Should I just start fresh with new friends to avoid any future problems? I don't want to be the source of probs for my friends.
Should I just find new friends?
Unfortunately, when people get divorced, their friends have to pick a side. If you met these people through your husband, then they are most likely going to side with your husband.
Since your husband was fired, I don't know why his former co-workers are so opposed to their wives remaining friends with you, unless they are also continuing a friendship with him. If that's the case, they probably feel that they were friends with him first, so their wives shouldn't associate with you. I would think that they would want to disassociate themselves from him as quickly as possible, so as not to be suspected of or associated with the same behavior that got him fired.
At any rate, I don't think you should give up on the wives who genuinely seem to want to be your friends. Be cautious with the ones you think are in it for the gossip, and only give them as much info as you want to get back to your husband. Time will tell if they are going to be there for you over the long haul, or if they are going to bend to the wishes of their husbands and abandon you.
Reply:Well i know all about the company gossip tree believe me.. You seem to have the pecking order about right with the groups.. Hell if i had been banging all the women at work that the gossip ring had me i would have been one tired puppy. The truth with these women is there is always going to be that constant reminder of what happened with them around.. Hell i have to look at the two that caused me problems every day at work. The ones that you know are sincere keep in touch to hell with every one else.. Then again one game i played is i knew who the gossip folks were and i would act like there friends and give them bs information just to see how far it would go.. Kinda of fun actually..
Reply:If someone asked you right now "pick 3 friends and the rest have to go!" you would have a few of those ladies to fit the spots. Other than those maybe some fresh energy would do you some good.
Reply:If you know that they are truly your friends then continue to see them. If their husbands don't want them to associate with you then that is their decision to not see you.
Reply:They don't sound like real friends!!!! Seriously, I think you should just make friends with nice people.
Reply:No, you can't let your husband's infidelities cost you your friends as well. The ones that don't want to talk to you, screw them. The friends you think are real, keep them. Absolutely. And meet some new friends too.
Reply:No, you shouldnt have to start over completely just because your husband was a dog. You should hold onto to close friends that you have made. Youre going to need the support. You are right about staying aay from the ladies who just want to dish and will probably spread your gossip around. But don't feel like you have to abandon the true friendships that you have made. you didnt do anything wrong here.
Reply:Perhaps you could voice your concern with some of these wives who you believe are true friends and let them decide. Since you need many friends at this time, I would look to those areas where you might have something in common with others and make some friends there.
Should I just find new friends?
Unfortunately, when people get divorced, their friends have to pick a side. If you met these people through your husband, then they are most likely going to side with your husband.
Since your husband was fired, I don't know why his former co-workers are so opposed to their wives remaining friends with you, unless they are also continuing a friendship with him. If that's the case, they probably feel that they were friends with him first, so their wives shouldn't associate with you. I would think that they would want to disassociate themselves from him as quickly as possible, so as not to be suspected of or associated with the same behavior that got him fired.
At any rate, I don't think you should give up on the wives who genuinely seem to want to be your friends. Be cautious with the ones you think are in it for the gossip, and only give them as much info as you want to get back to your husband. Time will tell if they are going to be there for you over the long haul, or if they are going to bend to the wishes of their husbands and abandon you.
Reply:Well i know all about the company gossip tree believe me.. You seem to have the pecking order about right with the groups.. Hell if i had been banging all the women at work that the gossip ring had me i would have been one tired puppy. The truth with these women is there is always going to be that constant reminder of what happened with them around.. Hell i have to look at the two that caused me problems every day at work. The ones that you know are sincere keep in touch to hell with every one else.. Then again one game i played is i knew who the gossip folks were and i would act like there friends and give them bs information just to see how far it would go.. Kinda of fun actually..
Reply:If someone asked you right now "pick 3 friends and the rest have to go!" you would have a few of those ladies to fit the spots. Other than those maybe some fresh energy would do you some good.
Reply:If you know that they are truly your friends then continue to see them. If their husbands don't want them to associate with you then that is their decision to not see you.
Reply:They don't sound like real friends!!!! Seriously, I think you should just make friends with nice people.
Reply:No, you can't let your husband's infidelities cost you your friends as well. The ones that don't want to talk to you, screw them. The friends you think are real, keep them. Absolutely. And meet some new friends too.
Reply:No, you shouldnt have to start over completely just because your husband was a dog. You should hold onto to close friends that you have made. Youre going to need the support. You are right about staying aay from the ladies who just want to dish and will probably spread your gossip around. But don't feel like you have to abandon the true friendships that you have made. you didnt do anything wrong here.
Reply:Perhaps you could voice your concern with some of these wives who you believe are true friends and let them decide. Since you need many friends at this time, I would look to those areas where you might have something in common with others and make some friends there.
Why do male friends find it difficult to remain friends with a female after she becomes newly single?
Some guys can cut it being a friend to a single woman despite their own relationship circumstances but others who may have been friends for some time will run a mile, create distance and become embarrased talking with you once you become "available." Is it common for a long term male friend to become "scared" of the friendship after a woman who had a partner finds herself single?
Why do male friends find it difficult to remain friends with a female after she becomes newly single?
There is still the " rumor " going around that a man and a woman cannot be " just friends ".
Who thought of that, i don`t know - but that might be an issue here.
I have some female friends who are single as well, as am i, but there is just friendship between us. Some people seem incapable of understanding this.
Due to the fact that some people seem intent on spreading rumors about people, some men might take some distance to prevent both friends from getting hurt.
Don`t blame the men though, blame those lousy gossips, who have no life of their own, and try desperately to destroy that of others.
Why do male friends find it difficult to remain friends with a female after she becomes newly single?
There is still the " rumor " going around that a man and a woman cannot be " just friends ".
Who thought of that, i don`t know - but that might be an issue here.
I have some female friends who are single as well, as am i, but there is just friendship between us. Some people seem incapable of understanding this.
Due to the fact that some people seem intent on spreading rumors about people, some men might take some distance to prevent both friends from getting hurt.
Don`t blame the men though, blame those lousy gossips, who have no life of their own, and try desperately to destroy that of others.
Ok, so the majority of my friends are girls, they all find me attractive, but they just wanna be friends. help
im friends with many girls, all whom are very pretty, and i would date any of them, but they consider me a good friend, the thing is i cant get out of the "friend loop". How do I turn one of these "friends" into a "girl-friend"
Ok, so the majority of my friends are girls, they all find me attractive, but they just wanna be friends. help
Take this advice from me. I was "friends only" with my wife for a long time. I watched her date other guys, and she watched me date other girls. To find out what girls you are friends with that might make a good fit as a girlfriend, find another girl to date. One of two things will happen:
(1) You might actually realize that the girl you looked outside of the box to get is actually the one for you, and thus your search is over; or
(2) One (or more) of your friends will say things to you about the girl you are dating that are not extremely flattering (yet not too abrasive, since they are your friend). That girl is jealous, and that means that whether or not she wants to admit it she has a thing for you.
If you find one of your friends becoming jealous, and you want to pursue the relationship to another level, make sure to be patient. Don't rush it too much - I did not press the issue and I ended up marrying my best friend.
Racing Shoes
Ok, so the majority of my friends are girls, they all find me attractive, but they just wanna be friends. help
Take this advice from me. I was "friends only" with my wife for a long time. I watched her date other guys, and she watched me date other girls. To find out what girls you are friends with that might make a good fit as a girlfriend, find another girl to date. One of two things will happen:
(1) You might actually realize that the girl you looked outside of the box to get is actually the one for you, and thus your search is over; or
(2) One (or more) of your friends will say things to you about the girl you are dating that are not extremely flattering (yet not too abrasive, since they are your friend). That girl is jealous, and that means that whether or not she wants to admit it she has a thing for you.
If you find one of your friends becoming jealous, and you want to pursue the relationship to another level, make sure to be patient. Don't rush it too much - I did not press the issue and I ended up marrying my best friend.
Racing Shoes
How Do I find genuine friends in high school? I'm getting depressed and frustrated?
Hey everybody.
I'm a freshman in high school. Last year all of my friends moved to different schools, and I was forced into a brand new school knowing almost nobody!
I figured making friends would be easy... It had been in middle school. I wore the "right" clothes, I tried to be outgoing, and I was friendly to most people. I figured friendships would eventually happen, and I think I let a few good opportunities slip.
I did some things at the start of the year I regret. I walked in with my head up my ***, and I could have done a better job of meeting new people. I soon learned that this was not the right way to make new friends. At this point, It was almost half-way through the school year. I feel like I missed my opportunity!
Before christmas I made a few new friends, and I thought I had things on the right track. After a while I noticed my "friends" would make fun of me, and not treat me like a real friend. Worse, I found out that they use drugs and alcohol!
How Do I find genuine friends in high school? I'm getting depressed and frustrated?
Hey,
I honestly think you need to focus on finding ONE friend that you can really connect with, and from there you can start trying to integrate other people. Once you've made one really good friend, you'll be more confident, and you won't feel as lonely. Sure, everyone has their cliques, but I find that the best friends I've had in my life were all from different cliques, and we somehow came together because a few of us became friends and started inviting the others out. Now we're still close, even though we go to different colleges. The best thing you can do is to try to think of a person in one of your classes who you get along with and have something in common with. Then try to turn that into hanging out outside school. Try joining another club at school that is more interactive. Finally, remember that there are likely other people out there just like you at your school, who are not losers but don't have anyone to hang out with. Try finding one of them and making friends with them. They will be grateful you did.
Reply:lol.. same thing is happening to me :L Dont you just h8 it??
Reply:stop that negative thinking - it wont get you anywhere. have you ever heard of the law of attraction? If you keep on being a positive person - people will be drawn to your inner confidence.
Stop TRYING TOO HARD. Relax and have fun. High school friendship is only a phase - its rare friendship from high school even survive.
Stop looking. True friends will find their way to you when you at least expect it! Trust me. In the meantime, enjoy life to the fullest!
Read the link below. It'll help you understand.
Reply:Well if your school has clubs or sports, maybe take the chance and try something new. You will meet new people and you may even enjoy what you joined. Good luck!
Reply:something similar happened to me las year but on the contrary, I made lots of friends who I soon started not to like, so I decided to be alone. Although they were very nice people, I felt they weren't like me in any way!
I do have friends at school but not as much as I used to have when I was in my previous school, besides most of my friends goes to different schools and well... it's a long story, so, let's get back to your problem:
first make friends with people to whom you have something in common, such as music, they are likely to think like you. so know you have a friend who will surely introduce you to his friends, and know you will have a group of friends, but I don't know if genuine... you have to find out that, but it will take time, be patient
good luck!
I'm a freshman in high school. Last year all of my friends moved to different schools, and I was forced into a brand new school knowing almost nobody!
I figured making friends would be easy... It had been in middle school. I wore the "right" clothes, I tried to be outgoing, and I was friendly to most people. I figured friendships would eventually happen, and I think I let a few good opportunities slip.
I did some things at the start of the year I regret. I walked in with my head up my ***, and I could have done a better job of meeting new people. I soon learned that this was not the right way to make new friends. At this point, It was almost half-way through the school year. I feel like I missed my opportunity!
Before christmas I made a few new friends, and I thought I had things on the right track. After a while I noticed my "friends" would make fun of me, and not treat me like a real friend. Worse, I found out that they use drugs and alcohol!
How Do I find genuine friends in high school? I'm getting depressed and frustrated?
Hey,
I honestly think you need to focus on finding ONE friend that you can really connect with, and from there you can start trying to integrate other people. Once you've made one really good friend, you'll be more confident, and you won't feel as lonely. Sure, everyone has their cliques, but I find that the best friends I've had in my life were all from different cliques, and we somehow came together because a few of us became friends and started inviting the others out. Now we're still close, even though we go to different colleges. The best thing you can do is to try to think of a person in one of your classes who you get along with and have something in common with. Then try to turn that into hanging out outside school. Try joining another club at school that is more interactive. Finally, remember that there are likely other people out there just like you at your school, who are not losers but don't have anyone to hang out with. Try finding one of them and making friends with them. They will be grateful you did.
Reply:lol.. same thing is happening to me :L Dont you just h8 it??
Reply:stop that negative thinking - it wont get you anywhere. have you ever heard of the law of attraction? If you keep on being a positive person - people will be drawn to your inner confidence.
Stop TRYING TOO HARD. Relax and have fun. High school friendship is only a phase - its rare friendship from high school even survive.
Stop looking. True friends will find their way to you when you at least expect it! Trust me. In the meantime, enjoy life to the fullest!
Read the link below. It'll help you understand.
Reply:Well if your school has clubs or sports, maybe take the chance and try something new. You will meet new people and you may even enjoy what you joined. Good luck!
Reply:something similar happened to me las year but on the contrary, I made lots of friends who I soon started not to like, so I decided to be alone. Although they were very nice people, I felt they weren't like me in any way!
I do have friends at school but not as much as I used to have when I was in my previous school, besides most of my friends goes to different schools and well... it's a long story, so, let's get back to your problem:
first make friends with people to whom you have something in common, such as music, they are likely to think like you. so know you have a friend who will surely introduce you to his friends, and know you will have a group of friends, but I don't know if genuine... you have to find out that, but it will take time, be patient
good luck!
How do I find genuine friends in high school? I've been feeling lonely and depressed?
Hey everybody.
I'm a freshman in high school. Last year all of my friends moved to different schools, and I was forced into a brand new school knowing almost nobody!
I figured making friends would be easy... It had been in middle school. I wore the "right" clothes, I tried to be outgoing, and I was friendly to most people. I figured friendships would eventually happen, and I think I let a few good opportunities slip.
I did some things at the start of the year I regret. I walked in with my head up my ***, and I could have done a better job of meeting new people. I soon learned that this was not the right way to make new friends. At this point, It was almost half-way through the school year. I feel like I missed my opportunity!
Before christmas I made a few new friends, and I thought I had things on the right track. After a while I noticed my "friends" would make fun of me, and not treat me like a real friend. Worse, I found out that they use drugs and alcohol!
How do I find genuine friends in high school? I've been feeling lonely and depressed?
sorry to break it to you but it will be hard to find a real person in highschool so your best bet was to have your friends inthere with you but thats out of the question. but u will make friends just kno everybody changes in high school and you will to so make alot of friends and be prepared for the drama, loves, love lost, friendships,break up and some emotional feelings.
just have confindence, try starting out by makeing friends in your classes you have go for someone who has mabey to or more classes with you
good luck and have confidence!
I'm a freshman in high school. Last year all of my friends moved to different schools, and I was forced into a brand new school knowing almost nobody!
I figured making friends would be easy... It had been in middle school. I wore the "right" clothes, I tried to be outgoing, and I was friendly to most people. I figured friendships would eventually happen, and I think I let a few good opportunities slip.
I did some things at the start of the year I regret. I walked in with my head up my ***, and I could have done a better job of meeting new people. I soon learned that this was not the right way to make new friends. At this point, It was almost half-way through the school year. I feel like I missed my opportunity!
Before christmas I made a few new friends, and I thought I had things on the right track. After a while I noticed my "friends" would make fun of me, and not treat me like a real friend. Worse, I found out that they use drugs and alcohol!
How do I find genuine friends in high school? I've been feeling lonely and depressed?
sorry to break it to you but it will be hard to find a real person in highschool so your best bet was to have your friends inthere with you but thats out of the question. but u will make friends just kno everybody changes in high school and you will to so make alot of friends and be prepared for the drama, loves, love lost, friendships,break up and some emotional feelings.
just have confindence, try starting out by makeing friends in your classes you have go for someone who has mabey to or more classes with you
good luck and have confidence!
How do you find true friends... and how do you know when a friend is using you?
right when I think all of my friends truly love me, and I have great friends... something goes wrong. they completely use me, they're embarrassed to be seen with me, they pretend to like me or something, I really don't know.
like for example ~ one of my friends talks to me about everything when she's alone and tells me that I'm 1 of her awesome friends, but out in public, if I say 'hi' to her or something, she acts like I'm just an acquaintance or something. how do get real friends?
thanks in advance ♥
How do you find true friends... and how do you know when a friend is using you?
Its really hard to find really friends now days. I have alot of friends but only 1 knows everything about me. The thing is dont tell all ur friends personal information about u because they might use it against u. Real friends are the ppl that will always welcome u, ppl that will care for u, give u good suggestions, back u up in any fight, give u there keys to their car in case of emergancy well some will. I really hope this kinda helps u sorry for my spelling.
Reply:true friendz will come soon u can neva tell untill they r w/u no matter wat u do. u can tell when a friend is useing u when he/she only asks u 4 things he/she wants n if he/she neva wants 2 help u out w/anything after all u did 4 him/her
Reply:I could never find "true" friends during my youth. The friends that I had, turned to be the same as your friends. Working was my out. I worked from the time I was 14, outside of the home. One day, one of the girls that I was being deceitful to opened my eyes to her friendship. She even had me as her bridesmaid but we did not have true friendship. It was not until my children were out of the house, I no longer worked, and I found God, that true friends were given to me. We are not at all the same with earthly ways. Spiritually, we are closer than anyone can be, even siblings. Just live one day at a time and if you just dedicate yourself to serving God and putting him First, your life will blossom and you will be given true friends. Forgive me for preaching. This in not preaching, this is FACT.
Reply:so,now u know that she is not ur true friend..
find a person who has opposite attitude that u've mentioned...
true friends always in ur side either sad or happy condition....
gud luck...
Reply:well girl i been through that so many times and i kno how u feel. well this is how u find a true friend, u already kno that this girl is straight up fake so tell her if u ain't gone be real with me then we're not real friends and to find a friend be open to people and find people who share things in common with u. and then make sure when u guys hang out that its were everyone can c, not 2 show off but 2 b sure that they're a true friend. p.s a true friend will tell u what happened the day before the night before the hour before and will always have ur back.
Reply:Real/True/Best Friends DONT come mail order. Be yourself dont try to change for the person or group your with.. be you and trust me your true friends will stick by you.
Reply:ok your "one" friend is 2 faced and you know they're true if they tell you anything anywhere if they will do anything for you to succeed if they act total losers in public with you no matter where you are they will say hi back or if they care i know i have true friends they care about me dearly i know when I'm sick they help me get better for example my friend Anissa when i was sick with strep throat she sent me a card to make me feel better and i did
Reply:Real friend aren't just there when the weather good. They are they forever.
I don't remember where I read it, but It stand true: To find out who your real friends are just wait until things get rough.
As for people ignoring you: That's not friendship. A friend is mutally yours no matter what the surroundings.
Sorry, hun, but i think these people are using you.
Just trust your gut. Like romances, good frienshipd blossom over time. If someone seems too good to be true, they prolly are.
Reply:is sounds like ur friend r ashame of being ur friend lol. maybe is becuz when they r'nt w/ their other friend they just want to talk to u. is like they talk to other friends about other things but to u he/she is talking about a whole lot of different things
like for example ~ one of my friends talks to me about everything when she's alone and tells me that I'm 1 of her awesome friends, but out in public, if I say 'hi' to her or something, she acts like I'm just an acquaintance or something. how do get real friends?
thanks in advance ♥
How do you find true friends... and how do you know when a friend is using you?
Its really hard to find really friends now days. I have alot of friends but only 1 knows everything about me. The thing is dont tell all ur friends personal information about u because they might use it against u. Real friends are the ppl that will always welcome u, ppl that will care for u, give u good suggestions, back u up in any fight, give u there keys to their car in case of emergancy well some will. I really hope this kinda helps u sorry for my spelling.
Reply:true friendz will come soon u can neva tell untill they r w/u no matter wat u do. u can tell when a friend is useing u when he/she only asks u 4 things he/she wants n if he/she neva wants 2 help u out w/anything after all u did 4 him/her
Reply:I could never find "true" friends during my youth. The friends that I had, turned to be the same as your friends. Working was my out. I worked from the time I was 14, outside of the home. One day, one of the girls that I was being deceitful to opened my eyes to her friendship. She even had me as her bridesmaid but we did not have true friendship. It was not until my children were out of the house, I no longer worked, and I found God, that true friends were given to me. We are not at all the same with earthly ways. Spiritually, we are closer than anyone can be, even siblings. Just live one day at a time and if you just dedicate yourself to serving God and putting him First, your life will blossom and you will be given true friends. Forgive me for preaching. This in not preaching, this is FACT.
Reply:so,now u know that she is not ur true friend..
find a person who has opposite attitude that u've mentioned...
true friends always in ur side either sad or happy condition....
gud luck...
Reply:well girl i been through that so many times and i kno how u feel. well this is how u find a true friend, u already kno that this girl is straight up fake so tell her if u ain't gone be real with me then we're not real friends and to find a friend be open to people and find people who share things in common with u. and then make sure when u guys hang out that its were everyone can c, not 2 show off but 2 b sure that they're a true friend. p.s a true friend will tell u what happened the day before the night before the hour before and will always have ur back.
Reply:Real/True/Best Friends DONT come mail order. Be yourself dont try to change for the person or group your with.. be you and trust me your true friends will stick by you.
Reply:ok your "one" friend is 2 faced and you know they're true if they tell you anything anywhere if they will do anything for you to succeed if they act total losers in public with you no matter where you are they will say hi back or if they care i know i have true friends they care about me dearly i know when I'm sick they help me get better for example my friend Anissa when i was sick with strep throat she sent me a card to make me feel better and i did
Reply:Real friend aren't just there when the weather good. They are they forever.
I don't remember where I read it, but It stand true: To find out who your real friends are just wait until things get rough.
As for people ignoring you: That's not friendship. A friend is mutally yours no matter what the surroundings.
Sorry, hun, but i think these people are using you.
Just trust your gut. Like romances, good frienshipd blossom over time. If someone seems too good to be true, they prolly are.
Reply:is sounds like ur friend r ashame of being ur friend lol. maybe is becuz when they r'nt w/ their other friend they just want to talk to u. is like they talk to other friends about other things but to u he/she is talking about a whole lot of different things
How can I find more friends and keep them?
I have a hard time letting people into my inner circle. I have 4 best friends, each whom I have been very close to during different times in my life (talking every day, etc) I still feel like I can tell them anything. But I have lost touch with each one of them recently, due to all FOUR of them and myself being so involved in our relationships.
We are all very young... ranging from 19-21... and we are each been so attached to our boyfriends that we hardly make time to see each other anymore.
I just put my 2 year relationship to an end now, and I'm really hurting. My friends are being supportive...talking with me, going out to lunch, shopping with me. But most of them time its brief.
I love my friends, but I want to step out and make some new friends. Just some people to have fun with!
I make friends very quickly and easily, but I don't know how to keep them if it doesn't seem meaningful. I just stop making an effort to stay friends.
I want to change this. What can I do?
How can I find more friends and keep them?
move on
Reply:I too have the similar things as regard friendship. With me , i have their sweet memories. Its rule of lie----one goes, then another comes. But old are always gold. We must try to be in their touch, by any means, mails, telephone etc............
As friendship never dies.....we can never replace old friends, i realise it now! So, though i wanna a new friend in my life, still remember the old. Friendship will come ur way----------keep up with old...!! Time test friendship........having lots of friends with no meaning , like haveing none. so better to have one- who understands u!!
Reply:try and keep in touch with your friends try to you will be so lonely with out friends
Reply:Try joining a few social classes / groups, that way you can meet new people with similar interests. Once you've met a few people that you get on with you can branch out with them and do things outside the group that you met in.
I don't know if you have a job but work colleagues can be great friends as well.
About letting your old friends slip, everyone is guilty of that. I've done it before due to relationships and my friends have always been there after. Just be honest with them, tell them you're sorry for losing touch. They'll be cool with it, trust me!
The biggest bit of advice I can give is that relationships sometimes only last a few years but real friendships last a lifetime. Make the effort, its worth it.
Best of luck :)
Reply:What you need to do honey is go out, play sport anything that's outside your normal world. You could also try working in a customer service job also, Hospitality is a great way to meet people!!! Go do something you enjoy that way you'll meet people who like the same thing.
Remember: Hold your head and smile , people take notice and will want to approach you. Don't be down/negative or grumpy, or no one will want to know you.
Reply:Go for group dates. Or have a girls outing while the guys go out on their own. I don't think the guys would really enjoy going shopping with girls all the time. Treat them like you want others to treat you.
Reply:Set specific days where your close friends all hang-out somewhere in particular. Lets say for example that you come to an agreement with your friends to meet every Monday afternoon at the local Starbucks and just chat it up....You need to improve the quality of your friends..not the quantity.
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We are all very young... ranging from 19-21... and we are each been so attached to our boyfriends that we hardly make time to see each other anymore.
I just put my 2 year relationship to an end now, and I'm really hurting. My friends are being supportive...talking with me, going out to lunch, shopping with me. But most of them time its brief.
I love my friends, but I want to step out and make some new friends. Just some people to have fun with!
I make friends very quickly and easily, but I don't know how to keep them if it doesn't seem meaningful. I just stop making an effort to stay friends.
I want to change this. What can I do?
How can I find more friends and keep them?
move on
Reply:I too have the similar things as regard friendship. With me , i have their sweet memories. Its rule of lie----one goes, then another comes. But old are always gold. We must try to be in their touch, by any means, mails, telephone etc............
As friendship never dies.....we can never replace old friends, i realise it now! So, though i wanna a new friend in my life, still remember the old. Friendship will come ur way----------keep up with old...!! Time test friendship........having lots of friends with no meaning , like haveing none. so better to have one- who understands u!!
Reply:try and keep in touch with your friends try to you will be so lonely with out friends
Reply:Try joining a few social classes / groups, that way you can meet new people with similar interests. Once you've met a few people that you get on with you can branch out with them and do things outside the group that you met in.
I don't know if you have a job but work colleagues can be great friends as well.
About letting your old friends slip, everyone is guilty of that. I've done it before due to relationships and my friends have always been there after. Just be honest with them, tell them you're sorry for losing touch. They'll be cool with it, trust me!
The biggest bit of advice I can give is that relationships sometimes only last a few years but real friendships last a lifetime. Make the effort, its worth it.
Best of luck :)
Reply:What you need to do honey is go out, play sport anything that's outside your normal world. You could also try working in a customer service job also, Hospitality is a great way to meet people!!! Go do something you enjoy that way you'll meet people who like the same thing.
Remember: Hold your head and smile , people take notice and will want to approach you. Don't be down/negative or grumpy, or no one will want to know you.
Reply:Go for group dates. Or have a girls outing while the guys go out on their own. I don't think the guys would really enjoy going shopping with girls all the time. Treat them like you want others to treat you.
Reply:Set specific days where your close friends all hang-out somewhere in particular. Lets say for example that you come to an agreement with your friends to meet every Monday afternoon at the local Starbucks and just chat it up....You need to improve the quality of your friends..not the quantity.
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Does my friends really find me attractive?
I'm not being conceited, cocky or anything...i'm just curious what my firends have been comments on me...
One time, I arrived at school and my firend saw me, and he walked up to and said "Imran, sexy guy" and shook my hand. He's not gay thou.
Another time I was walking up to my other friend and he said "Imran, handsome boy. You are a handosme boy'. He's not gay coz he has a gf.
Then another friend of mine, he a bit of metrosexual and he has a gf. He looked at me and said "I can see the handsomeness and beauty inside you" The way he said this he's sound very serious and respectful and he gave me an eye-contact.
So i can't tell if they are joking around or not coz i get same comments from my relative family friends and close friends.
Does my friends really find me attractive?
beauty is confidence not poll love urself others follow
One time, I arrived at school and my firend saw me, and he walked up to and said "Imran, sexy guy" and shook my hand. He's not gay thou.
Another time I was walking up to my other friend and he said "Imran, handsome boy. You are a handosme boy'. He's not gay coz he has a gf.
Then another friend of mine, he a bit of metrosexual and he has a gf. He looked at me and said "I can see the handsomeness and beauty inside you" The way he said this he's sound very serious and respectful and he gave me an eye-contact.
So i can't tell if they are joking around or not coz i get same comments from my relative family friends and close friends.
Does my friends really find me attractive?
beauty is confidence not poll love urself others follow
I have these two friends. Read to find one thing they have done but there is a lot more I can't write.?
Our moms are really close,so we are.They can be mean so not everybody likes them:sometimes I don't.A lot of people call them b- and I don't know if it is bad with me to be with them.I went to a party with them because one of their moms had her birthday.I asked them to come to the bathroom with me or they asked me.I used it last and asked them to wait coz I was scared.Then I went out to wash my hands realizing they left me alone downstairs.I was SO SCARED and I had my hands still soapy when I RAN upstairs and saw my other friend, Liesel.She is really nice but my two friends don't like her.Liesel called them byotches. She explained that they ran upstairs so I could be alone and told everybody that they left me. They know how I'm a scaredy-cat.She called them mean and ran for me. Then my two friends lied that they waited for 2 min. and got tired of waiting. Are they true friends and can I depend on them or friends like Liesel?I have to be nice to them because of our moms.
I have these two friends. Read to find one thing they have done but there is a lot more I can't write.?
You don't have to be "nice" to them simply because your moms are friends. I think if you talked to your mom about it she would understand and be very proud of you that you don't want the same bad reputation that these other girls are getting because they are mean. It's a reputation you don't want and you will eventually be thought of being just like them...guilty by association. Hang with Liesel and people like her. You don't need to be rude to these other girls. Just make other plans to hang out with other girls when the moms are getting together. They obviously have serious self-esteem issues (that's why they are mean to others, makes them feel better about themselves). You don't have a self-esteem issue. Good for you!!!! You're a smart kid!
Reply:Okay, there's one clear thing: they aren't exactly your type. You're dealing with a "Three's a crowd" situation and you obviously don't fit in with them. So their mums know your mum. And then what? I'm not saying that you should stop being nice to them. I'm just saying that you guys can be budies but not exactly best friends...you know, on the "Hello, Hi, What's up" level Find a couple of new [best] friends. Friends you have a lot in common with, people more like Liesel. Leave the other two alone. They seem to be made for each other or something.
Reply:if u feel that there really not true friends then there not...instinct and wat the heart tells us usually happen for a eason especially if u question urself...[make sure u look at the pros and cons]u dont have to end the friendship but if u feel like dat and confronted them and they seem like there lyin go w/ ur instincts..GOOD LUCK
Reply:First of all, they are not true friends, a friend always care for you, and never does anything that you are not comfortable with. Leslie in the other hand, seems like a nice person, someone who really cares about you. And well it doesn't matter if your mom its cool with the mom of the girls, those are two different stories, you should tell your mom know how this girls are with you, and also tell their mom, although the mom its always going to believe them. Now that i think about it, if you do this , it can bring problems, with your mom and their mom,but HEY don't let that stop you, I know your mom loves you, and she is a nice lady, so tell her what's going on, always trusth your parents.... hope this helps... any question please e-mail me,riveroluis@sbcglobal.net i am always here to help.
Reply:You can be nice to them but that doesn't mean you have to be friends. They don't sound very nice to me either. Explain to your mom that these two girls take advantage of you, are not very nice and tend to tease you. Find another friend who you have things in common with. True friends never leave another behind. Just like the movie Lilo and Stitch. Good luck.
Reply:This is games children play... you can ignore and move on... let them see it's doesn't bother you... hang with people that care about you and show it... no games and back stabbing allowed... make it know that you think they like playing silly little games... running off leaving someone alone ... how lame is that... what if they were scared. it wouldn't be funny to them... Like I said moveon, ignore it... hang with others... hope this helps...
I have these two friends. Read to find one thing they have done but there is a lot more I can't write.?
You don't have to be "nice" to them simply because your moms are friends. I think if you talked to your mom about it she would understand and be very proud of you that you don't want the same bad reputation that these other girls are getting because they are mean. It's a reputation you don't want and you will eventually be thought of being just like them...guilty by association. Hang with Liesel and people like her. You don't need to be rude to these other girls. Just make other plans to hang out with other girls when the moms are getting together. They obviously have serious self-esteem issues (that's why they are mean to others, makes them feel better about themselves). You don't have a self-esteem issue. Good for you!!!! You're a smart kid!
Reply:Okay, there's one clear thing: they aren't exactly your type. You're dealing with a "Three's a crowd" situation and you obviously don't fit in with them. So their mums know your mum. And then what? I'm not saying that you should stop being nice to them. I'm just saying that you guys can be budies but not exactly best friends...you know, on the "Hello, Hi, What's up" level Find a couple of new [best] friends. Friends you have a lot in common with, people more like Liesel. Leave the other two alone. They seem to be made for each other or something.
Reply:if u feel that there really not true friends then there not...instinct and wat the heart tells us usually happen for a eason especially if u question urself...[make sure u look at the pros and cons]u dont have to end the friendship but if u feel like dat and confronted them and they seem like there lyin go w/ ur instincts..GOOD LUCK
Reply:First of all, they are not true friends, a friend always care for you, and never does anything that you are not comfortable with. Leslie in the other hand, seems like a nice person, someone who really cares about you. And well it doesn't matter if your mom its cool with the mom of the girls, those are two different stories, you should tell your mom know how this girls are with you, and also tell their mom, although the mom its always going to believe them. Now that i think about it, if you do this , it can bring problems, with your mom and their mom,but HEY don't let that stop you, I know your mom loves you, and she is a nice lady, so tell her what's going on, always trusth your parents.... hope this helps... any question please e-mail me,riveroluis@sbcglobal.net i am always here to help.
Reply:You can be nice to them but that doesn't mean you have to be friends. They don't sound very nice to me either. Explain to your mom that these two girls take advantage of you, are not very nice and tend to tease you. Find another friend who you have things in common with. True friends never leave another behind. Just like the movie Lilo and Stitch. Good luck.
Reply:This is games children play... you can ignore and move on... let them see it's doesn't bother you... hang with people that care about you and show it... no games and back stabbing allowed... make it know that you think they like playing silly little games... running off leaving someone alone ... how lame is that... what if they were scared. it wouldn't be funny to them... Like I said moveon, ignore it... hang with others... hope this helps...
I have friends that dont know how to mail a letter but can send emails all day long -Dont you find this Crazy?
I just think its sad that some people dont know how to send letters but can send emails And they pay their bills online -One friend of mine had NO idea you could pay them in person at the Utilites office !!!
And I even have friends that have know Idea how to use a Card-catalog at a library -cause they are accustomed to a computer and using search engines - one friend of mine said they never knew of 411 to call for information - This is Nuts !!! LOL !!!
Keep in mind all of my friends are 17 to 20 and live at home except for me - they are learning stuff from me though -cause I'm teaching them things they never heard of!! LOL
Oh yeah %26amp; there is a whole generation of men that cant tell the difference between real BOOBS %26amp; Implants -but thats a whole other subject _LMAO !!!
I have friends that dont know how to mail a letter but can send emails all day long -Dont you find this Crazy?
Well, my parents used a slide rule in school, and my children use a graphing calculator. I used a calculator, but they were a bit expensive.
I wish Word was available when I was in college. It was a nightmare editing papers. Oh yeah, Whiteout wasn't invented yet. Nowadays, you can move entire sections of a paper around without re-typing!
A lot of older people don't know how to turn on a computer or use the Internet. It's a shame, because there is a wealth of information on the WWW.
Reply:That's just nuts, but not the least bit strange. My fourth grade class learned all about writing letters and card catalogs, the "old-fashioned" way to do stuff. My sister's fourth grade class learned to make their own webpage! As new ways of doing things come about, old stuff is being phased out and forgotten. That's insane! Even my grandma sent me an E-card for my birthday this year! LoL
Reply:Who cares? No-one uses snail mail anymore, I've never even seen a library with a card catalogue, why would people go to all that bother when computers have made things easier?
I also hope you appreciate the irony of saying "lol" while talking about the good old days.
Reply:Society is evolving. Computers are a part of everything now so to grow up in such a society why would you do something when you have never needed to (for instance learning how to use a card catalog).
Most young people today have rarely if ever heard of the dewey decimal sytem. Why do the work if a computer will do it for you? Hmm.......
And I even have friends that have know Idea how to use a Card-catalog at a library -cause they are accustomed to a computer and using search engines - one friend of mine said they never knew of 411 to call for information - This is Nuts !!! LOL !!!
Keep in mind all of my friends are 17 to 20 and live at home except for me - they are learning stuff from me though -cause I'm teaching them things they never heard of!! LOL
Oh yeah %26amp; there is a whole generation of men that cant tell the difference between real BOOBS %26amp; Implants -but thats a whole other subject _LMAO !!!
I have friends that dont know how to mail a letter but can send emails all day long -Dont you find this Crazy?
Well, my parents used a slide rule in school, and my children use a graphing calculator. I used a calculator, but they were a bit expensive.
I wish Word was available when I was in college. It was a nightmare editing papers. Oh yeah, Whiteout wasn't invented yet. Nowadays, you can move entire sections of a paper around without re-typing!
A lot of older people don't know how to turn on a computer or use the Internet. It's a shame, because there is a wealth of information on the WWW.
Reply:That's just nuts, but not the least bit strange. My fourth grade class learned all about writing letters and card catalogs, the "old-fashioned" way to do stuff. My sister's fourth grade class learned to make their own webpage! As new ways of doing things come about, old stuff is being phased out and forgotten. That's insane! Even my grandma sent me an E-card for my birthday this year! LoL
Reply:Who cares? No-one uses snail mail anymore, I've never even seen a library with a card catalogue, why would people go to all that bother when computers have made things easier?
I also hope you appreciate the irony of saying "lol" while talking about the good old days.
Reply:Society is evolving. Computers are a part of everything now so to grow up in such a society why would you do something when you have never needed to (for instance learning how to use a card catalog).
Most young people today have rarely if ever heard of the dewey decimal sytem. Why do the work if a computer will do it for you? Hmm.......
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