How do you make friends and find fun?

My best friend of 5 years is pregnant and starting a family. I hung out with her everyday for 5 years and always had something to do. she has been my only female friend but now she is unable to do the same things and I rarely see her. I realized that I depended on her for fun. I hung around the friends she met without even trying to make my own friends. After she got pregnant I hung around my ex boyfriend for a year spent all day with him (when not working) and basically hung with his friends. Now that we are broken up I feel really lonely. I was so attached to them I guess I didnt see the importance of making friends. Now I just sit around bored because I have no friends and arent really sure how to make them. I am also really bored just sitting in the house. How do you meet new people and make friends (I am really shy with strangers). Help I'm dying of lonliness and boredom!

How do you make friends and find fun?
Create oppertunities: take up a hobby that requires a lot of people, such as learning a new language (Chinese is great because it's new and hard for everyone), or playing a group sport (volleyball is fun).





If there's anyone that you are vaguely acquainted with but might want to get to know better, suggest that the two of you go out shopping or do something fun for a day. That creates a bond and if it goes well, you can build up a friendship.





Meeting people over the internet is very risky, but if you're feeling lonely it's always nice to talk to people. Just google for chat rooms to make friends in, maybe you can even enter your location to find out if there are chat groups for people near you.





Doing some charity work is always a nice way to meet people, either people you work with or the people you work for.





But most of all, embrace every oppertunity to meet someone new or get to know someone better. Think positively.
Reply:i wish i could help you. but I'm lonely looking for new friends myself. i just moved to a new area and i need to meet new people too. let me know how to meet new friends when you find out.


thanx, Tam
Reply:My best friend and I have known eachother for 5 years and in high school we did everything together, but after high school we kinda went our seperate ways cause she went off to college and I moved, but we try and see eachother as much as we can. I made tons of friends in high school and some of them were her friends and some of then were my friends and then we became this huge group.... I'm goin through the kinda same thing. My really good friend got married and I never see her cause her husband is controlling and I've realized to hang with others. just be yourself. go to classes on your favorite things and look for people who have the same commen things with you.
Reply:try taking a class at a ymca or something. they have classes for people of all ages and you can meet other who are interested in what you are too. also it'll cut down on awk introdutions and icebreakers
Reply:well if youre really shy with strangers thats your problem. just be more outgoing and push down your wall between you and the rest of the world. if your more outgoing then everything will fall into place and you will find yourself having more friends than you want.......good luck
Reply:that sucks! im sorry about that :( well what kind of things r u interested in? if you like reading then go2 the library and try 2 look 4 someone,when u find sum1 who likes nice (and is preferably by themselves) casually ask if they could recommend any books.. the conversation might go further? thats just one example i dont know what u like doing but its a good place 2 start because ur going to find peole with the same intrests as u, if u like sports then g2 a game etc... u could also try going to bars and seeing if u can pick up n e 1 lol.... maybe get a new job even? good luck hope u find someone!! :)
Reply:find a hobbie, like a sports team then make friends with those people.
Reply:You have to come out your shell. If you have a great personality and your a really nice person, friends will come to you easy. If your not uncomfortable with going somewhere alone, you are bound to meet a person, especially a guy.

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