Where Can I Find Friends?

At my age (44), you'd think I would not have this problem. My best friend died in 1997, I moved a lot, and I haven't made any other close friends since then. I am also not close with my family. I'm bitter that everyone else has girlfriends they talk to and hang out with, but no one is interested in having a new friend like me. And, yes -- I've been a "friend" to others. It's amazing how I can show interest in someone else's' life, and they will talk about themselves all day -- but they will not ask me about my life or invite me along with the group. I mistakenly mentioned that I have no friends to a co-worker; she now treats me like I have The Plague. I am angry at God for allowing me to get into this situation, and have lost my faith as well. NBC Nightly News says that women who don't have friends are putting their health at risk. (Great -- now that, too?) Anyone else in a similar situation? Or, have you overcome this horrible circumstance? Please share -- I need hope!

Where Can I Find Friends?
dont go on myspace...you need real friends





well your situation is a bit unfortunate but i think i have some tips...


Get involved in things whether it be...at a gym or a group or team of somesort....get out there and meet people who share the same interests....


Invite a group of coworkers to lunch or something..


and when people talk to you...make it an effort to amp up the convo....keep it goin and talk to people more...whether it be a simple 'hello' every morning..?


Communication is key...


Join in a charity group or somewhere


possibly get a new look so people will compliment you and ask questions...?


Start a new trend


Example...


My friend bought a Vera Bradley bag....it became a hit among everyone she showed her bag to and now 17 of my friends have one...they get compliments all the time!


Dont worry about finding that ONE best friend to Confide In...she/he will come..and thats where God comes in.


Last...


Please dont blame God....Something Amazing will happen in your life...And It will say 'From:God' all over it


Faith is next to a neccessity for people in this world and i assure you...God's got this all in His hands...


Trust Your Faith...and Keep The Peace...And Pray heavily....prayer is where the truth is...Something this website could never tell you


Peace.Love.Hope
Reply:Yes definitely been in that situation, and not too long ago too. I gave up searching and guess what? Now I have 2 new friends. I gave up and threw myself into something I always wanted to do which was sewing and quilting. I prayed for this to happen and the very next week there was an add in the paper. I went along to the class and it took me till the end of the class to get to know the others really well but now I am happy that they actually want to spend more time with me.


I also potter away in the garden. Be yourself and make yourself happy first.
Reply:I have had a similiar problem. My best friend moved away and I was at lost on what to do without her. I had friends, but not that one really great friend you shared and did everything with. Anyway, I went back to school at the local community college and chose a class I was intrested in for fun. I met alot people who were intrested in the subject and became really good friends with one. We both enjoyed that class so much we took another and have been best friends ever since. I know its hard to get back out there, but classes and/ or group functions seem to work the best.


There is also this dice game called Bunco (you can look up the rules), but it is just an excuse to invite people over to socialize. You could invite people from work or other aquaintances- you never know where it could lead. I wish I could do more for you, but good luck!
Reply:Don't blame God. You must have just missed them, maybe because you're looking the other way when your path crossed in those yesteryears? Get moving and learn how to smile, I'm sure you'll meet friends along the way. Good luck!
Reply:I have a hard time forging friendships with other women myself. Men? No problem.





I'm tempted to join a book club or a volunteer organization. Try it. Good luck.
Reply:It's not Gods fault you don't have friends, it's your own. Go out to different places, change your attitude. Get a happy, out look on life, and friends will find you. That is just the impression I gather from your question and description.
Reply:go on myspace
Reply:wow.. thats not good.. im sorry. well just try and not be so bitter.. i kno its hard my sisters very bitter and when your happy people like to be around you. or else ignore your coworkers just like they ignore you and just be pleasant as you can to everyone else.. hope i helped
Reply:Blaming God?????


c'mon......


you have to want friends, you have to be open to friendship.


f you are as bitter outwardly, as you are in this question.... no one will want to be with you.


Make up your mind to smile and appreciate everyone around you.


That in itself will draw people to you.


Make known you tastes/interests in music, literature, and such...that will weed out people that are not compatible.


But, by all means.... buck up...don't be bitter...


reap what you sow?





good luck
Reply:I think, if you take classes like, say pottery, jewelry, dance, anything! Then you would meet people who are willing to make friends too. Another thing, is if you're bored, then get a make over. A new wardrobe! A new hairstyle will even do!


To make yourself feel happy is the first step. That's what I think.
Reply:I can HELP YOU...you are NEVER to old to club..im serious here. Go to a club and meet some people. If you are not the "Club kinda person, go to myspace and meet locals in your area...And um i have a huge tip. Be Sociable and likable! People will enjoy being around you if you are socialble and likable. Dont wait for others to ask how you are, bring it up themselves. Be a funny person. I know its hard to gain some social skills, but with a little work, you'll be great at it! DONT WORRY, it will all come out fine..





I hope i Helped and You have a Wonderful day!
Reply:Do you have a church that you attend ? Maybe vist a nursing home or hospital, there are lots of lonely people there that could use a friend. There are people that donate time and services to different causes. Maybe someone could use a hand in your neighborhood. Next time your outside doing yardwork or picking up the mail, time it so that a neighbor is also outside. Strike up a converstion or make a comment about the weather, Don't forget, other people may be in a similar situation and are a little awkward about meeting people too. Start there.
Reply:First of all God does not have you in this situation. AND YOU KNOW THAT. If you get closer to God you would understand that God does not want you around bad people. Why would you want to be around people who don't care for you? So God will give you the friends He has for you at the right time. Have you tried myspace? Here is also a good place to find friends. I am more then happy to become your friend. Visit my myspace profile send me a message. http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fus... You might be surprised how God works in mysteriouse ways. God bless. REMEMBER GOD LOVES YOU!
Reply:make some
Reply:my mother has this problem...


one thing you can do is join a church, and get involved. Volunteer for something, especially if it involves group work. Don't advertize the fact that you don't have any friends, because people will think there really is something wrong with you! People usually don't understand that under some circumstances it is difficult to have real friends. Just meet people, socialize, and maybe you will find new friends!


Oh, and if you are divorced (like my mom), single women might keep you at safe distance because some would be afraid you are after their husbands (dumb, I know). So maybe try to hang out with other single women, and they probably make better friends anyways, because they don't spend most of their time with their husbands.
Reply:: (. im sorry. you can be my friend and i will be yours : )








to start, believe in god again. you cant be angry at him. he does so much for us and we push it off after one thing. thats not fair. give him another chance. maybe if you pray to him, ask him if he could help guide youi to a friend. a true one.





it sounds corny i know, but its true. it will work. you need to be open to new things if you want this to work.





dont tell people you have no friends like that. she probably considered you a friend and you blatently showed her up. thats bad. keep it inside, . your coworker prob, thinks you dont like her when maybe she liked you.





it will effect your health, because you are being depressed.





if you live in a neighborhood with other woman your age, start a book club or invite them over for a drink or something. just start by talking. say hi to people.





start by having a positive outlook on life. when you are positiv,e it will lighten the mood for the other person.





well. i hope i helped. jus tbe happy : )








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Reply:Simple, go be a party animal. Go to the bars. Find some of "those friends" meet those friend's friends. Have orgies, gangbangs, make porn! do it all... eventually something will come along