Should I just find new friends?

My husband recently was fired from his high-paying, high status position with a prominent fortune 500 company. (He was banging the help.) Until then, he had paraded me around many company functions and I became good friends with many of the other corporate wives. Now that I am in the middle of a very ugly divorce and my husband's reputation is shot. Many of the wives no longer care to associate with me, which is fine. However, many of the wives still want to support me through this difficult time. Some of their husbands don't want them around me - I'm not sure why. Others wives, I feel I don't want around me because I think they just want the latest gossip. But a few, I truly consider my friends and I feel they just want to help get me through the tough times. I don't have any family except my son so I cling to my faith and to my friends. Should I just start fresh with new friends to avoid any future problems? I don't want to be the source of probs for my friends.

Should I just find new friends?
Unfortunately, when people get divorced, their friends have to pick a side. If you met these people through your husband, then they are most likely going to side with your husband.





Since your husband was fired, I don't know why his former co-workers are so opposed to their wives remaining friends with you, unless they are also continuing a friendship with him. If that's the case, they probably feel that they were friends with him first, so their wives shouldn't associate with you. I would think that they would want to disassociate themselves from him as quickly as possible, so as not to be suspected of or associated with the same behavior that got him fired.





At any rate, I don't think you should give up on the wives who genuinely seem to want to be your friends. Be cautious with the ones you think are in it for the gossip, and only give them as much info as you want to get back to your husband. Time will tell if they are going to be there for you over the long haul, or if they are going to bend to the wishes of their husbands and abandon you.
Reply:Well i know all about the company gossip tree believe me.. You seem to have the pecking order about right with the groups.. Hell if i had been banging all the women at work that the gossip ring had me i would have been one tired puppy. The truth with these women is there is always going to be that constant reminder of what happened with them around.. Hell i have to look at the two that caused me problems every day at work. The ones that you know are sincere keep in touch to hell with every one else.. Then again one game i played is i knew who the gossip folks were and i would act like there friends and give them bs information just to see how far it would go.. Kinda of fun actually..
Reply:If someone asked you right now "pick 3 friends and the rest have to go!" you would have a few of those ladies to fit the spots. Other than those maybe some fresh energy would do you some good.
Reply:If you know that they are truly your friends then continue to see them. If their husbands don't want them to associate with you then that is their decision to not see you.
Reply:They don't sound like real friends!!!! Seriously, I think you should just make friends with nice people.
Reply:No, you can't let your husband's infidelities cost you your friends as well. The ones that don't want to talk to you, screw them. The friends you think are real, keep them. Absolutely. And meet some new friends too.
Reply:No, you shouldnt have to start over completely just because your husband was a dog. You should hold onto to close friends that you have made. Youre going to need the support. You are right about staying aay from the ladies who just want to dish and will probably spread your gossip around. But don't feel like you have to abandon the true friendships that you have made. you didnt do anything wrong here.
Reply:Perhaps you could voice your concern with some of these wives who you believe are true friends and let them decide. Since you need many friends at this time, I would look to those areas where you might have something in common with others and make some friends there.