My friends keeps putting me in the middle of their problems and I find it hard to remain partial?

Ok. Two friends, a couple. E and J. E cheated on J a few months back. It was a big thing and they broke up for a while. Things did not work out for E so after some talking, E and J got back together. I was there to give advice to both of them during that time, and I tried not to take sides. But now E has become extremely jealous and starts fights with J often for very trivial reasons. Last time they were waiting for a bus and this Lesbian told J he was cute and if she was straight she would gladly go out with him. E got so jealous he pulled J away and started accusing J of wanting to sleep with the lesbian. I mean, like this was crazy. And there I was in the middle of that mess. Both of them are my friends and I love them, but how can i stay partial when one of them is clearly wrong? How can I make E see he is going to lose J if he continues to behave like an idiot? How without losing the friendship of one or both?

My friends keeps putting me in the middle of their problems and I find it hard to remain partial?
The problem about getting involved in the chaos of other peoples lives EVEN those we care about is that it attracts that same chaotic mess into yours. If E looses or keeps J it is up to him only. The hardest and best thing anyone can do for a friend is have faith in them to find their own way. I am not saying stop caring but actually care about them more by knowing that they can see the truth as easily as you can. If they ask for help remind them of the times in their lives that they have been strong, kind, and wise. Don't get pulled into what is going wrong but be a beacon of what is right about both of them. If you talk to J tell J all the things you admire and like about J. If you talk to E remind E of all the things you see in E. If they want to bag on the other just listen remember you have free will to feel about J and E any way you want. J and E will work out there own thing and if you are a lighthouse for them in the storm they will do it in the best way possible and really love you for it.
Reply:Take them to a councilor to discuss their problems.
Reply:You only get in the middle of something you ALLOW yourself to get inthe middle of next time don't...stand up for yourself "Say I am sorry but I am not getting involved. I want to remain both your friends and I do not want to be inthe middle."
Reply:Maybe you should explain to the both of them that they are both being childish and their relationship is in need of some serious professional help before one or the other destroys any hope pf happiness. Their relationship does not seem healthy by any means and you should spare yourself the heartache of dragging yourself through it with them!
Reply:Stand up for urself, and tell them that ur not getting involved in it. It is there problem, and if u get involved, it will only cause problems in ur life. Personally, I think that they shouldn't have gotten back together, that was a big mistake on their part, and now they are suffering for it. If you want to be their friend, don't get involved, cause u might end up loosing one or both of them, as a friend.
Reply:E and J need to give it up anyway. That relationship has failure written all over it. As for YOU, you need to get some temper with them and tell them enough is enough - it is not your job to mediate.





Also, I think J needs to get with a Peter and a Bobby and have a threesome. That way it'd be P,B and J. :)
Reply:stop being partial. let the one whos wrong know whats up.
Reply:I think you mean impartial...





Tell them to work it out, and not to involve you. Lock them in a small room together, until they work it out.