Me and this girl are really close friends and we are both scared we won't find someone else closer?

Me and my friend, we have a history, we used to be together for a few months. And since then we grew really close. We talk all the time, every single day. I don't like her more then as a friend. But I get sad imagining her with someone else. Also, when I imagine myself with someone else, I can never imagine myself being closer and more comfortable with someone else more then with my friend. Me and my friend share many secrets.





So my question is, that when I meet someone I love and loves me, I will automatically be really close with her right?





And by the way, I know it seems like I have feelings for my friend, but I don't. I am just worried if I will ever find a girl that I can get really close with and share secrets with and be really comfortable around. I can't imagine myself being more closer to anyone but my friend. And she feels the same way.





Help, thanks.

Me and this girl are really close friends and we are both scared we won't find someone else closer?
You're right, it does sound like you have feelings for her. I think the reason you are so close to her is because you are craving the emotional intimacy that comes from a relationship. This is going to sound harsh but I'm going to assume you came here for the direct truth... you have to start pulling away from her. The reasons being: 1.When you do find someone she is not going to appreciate sharing you with a woman you speak of in the manner you do. 2. Just because you don't have those feelings doesn't mean she doesn't and she could be devastated if you are with someone else. 3. The longer you have this need fulfilled from her, your growth is being stunted. Maybe you keep this friendship so you don't have to be vulnerable and open with a new person.


Good luck!
Reply:I think your feelings for her as a friend only but feeling sad thinking of her with someone else is more or less worrying for her as your very best friend in this world. You feel sad for her if she gets hurt or is upset as any friend would for a true friend. I think you have a very unique relationship and it's awesome! That special woman for you is out there and she must accept your relationship with your best friend as part of you or she isn't worth it. Same rules apply to your best friend. I think this is really sweet and your concern and sincerity is really refreshing. I hope you both find that perfect someone that completes you and that is totally accepting of your best friend.
Reply:you do have feelings for your friend. may be this is not what you would call a crazy love, but she might just be a real love of your life, you just haven't realized it yet. and no, you won't be automatically close to a girl you fall for. you may as well just break up and come back to your friend.
Reply:You will be able to get close to someone again, but it will take time just like it did with her. It is also hard to get closer to someone when you already have a "confidante" (sp). You may wish to not be as close to her so when you do meet someone it will be easier to open up to them.
Reply:this one is hard to answer. i was close to my husband before he asked me out and i thought that he was the biggest dork ever but after a while i fell in love with him. my thought to you is this stop worrying once you do that maybe the girl of your dreams with say hello or maybe you already have the girl.
Reply:What do you "think" love is, whatever it is, it is what you have with your friend.





It is the best type of love you can and will ever get in life.





It is unconditonal love.





Wake up to yourselves and just admit it.





You are both still in love with each other.





All the best,





Fai
Reply:when you find someone that you like as more than a friend you will know and the bond will be just as strong if not stronger than the one you have now with your current friend. but you cant think that way, because if you think that you will never be that close to anyone, you will block people out without knowing. all you have to do is give it a chance. and the reason that it gets you sad to image you or her with someone else is because you probably think that it wont be the same after that or that you dont like the idea of someone taking your place.


or maybe you like her as more than a friend.


but are u sure that you only like her as a friend?


if you are then be glad you have such a good friend and dont do anything to harm that friendship, caus eonce you do it will never be the same again.
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