I'm Asian but I find that I like Caucasian people and I have many Caucasian friends. Is this normal?

I grew up in Singapore, which is a predominantly Asian society. I find the culture there very tense and highly-strung due to emphasis on good results and economic competitiveness.


I find it difficult to relate to my peers who are Asian and I was ostracised by my Chinese classmates in Primary and High School.


Since coming to uni in Australia I find that I made lots of friends, especially with White people. I like their individualism and their relaxed, laidback lifestyle. They also know how to take things easy.


Is this normal? I don't like mixing with Asian people because Asians rejected my friendship when I was younger. I find Chinese culture to be very judgmental and unforgiving. I openly embrace Western society and all its glorious attributes!

I'm Asian but I find that I like Caucasian people and I have many Caucasian friends. Is this normal?
It's really a regret that you have never really know the Asian culture even you was grew up from a Asian country. Chinese are normally much more reserved than the western. But they will definitely won't reject anyone friendship who is sincere.





I had worked with Chinese and western in Singapore. Most of the time, when I made a mistake, although the chinese boss or colleague may comment on it, but they forget the matter after sometime. The western just keep quiet and remain friendly, but they still brought the matter up after sometime.
Reply:I dont think it has got anything to do with you being Asian and liking Caucasians more. I think its because you do not agree with how your Chinese classmates were brought up. Im guessing that you were brought up the "Western way". Im a Filipino, and I had a lot of Chinese classmates in college, I just got along with them fine even if our beliefs were totally different since I was brought up differently from them. It not really about the race, its more about the culture.
Reply:why wouldn't it be?





race and culture are two separate traits
Reply:no problem at all.


by the way, have you tried middle easterners? around Dubai and California/Texas, you meet alot of great middle easterners that welcome diversity and are easy to get along with [:
Reply:Yes, certainly it is normal. It just so happen that you are more in sync with caucasians. It does not really matter what race you're from as long as you have meeting of the minds so to speak.
Reply:nothing wrong with it...I find myself more comfortable with Asians and the discipline that many have
Reply:It all sounds rational to me!





However, do use some caution. There is much to be said for the security of tradition. And we Caucasian liberals tend sometimes to have minds so open that our brains fall out.
Reply:I am for Internationalism. In fact when I was growing up, my best friend was from North Korea. One time we even caught and cooked a doggies together )).
Reply:Asians who go to other countries for study etc tend to congregate together - %26amp; then complain that they are not accepted into the broader community.





People like you who are seen to be willing to mix with others are generally well accepted here.





Plus you have the advantage of being from Singapore - Singaporeans are overall generally warmly welcomed by Australians.....(I've had some enjoyable holidays there!).





Don't let anyone put you off - mix with whoever you feel the most comfortable ....
Reply:Race is a false pretense, a lie intended to serve the egotistical, social and political agendas of people too ignorant, deluded or self-interested to care about the truth.
Reply:I think it's normal. Have heard of how friendly Australians are although I was never out of this little dot (Singapore).





As for your dislike to mix with Asians, that is personal so no one can tell you who to or not to mix with. You have the right to mix with friends whom you are comfortable with! I tend to mix with the English-speaking crowd and some will label me as trying to act class and stuff like that. But I couldn't care about their worthless comments. =)





One thing I agree with you is the emphasis on good results. During family gatherings of any sort, the first thing an aunt/uncle will ask is about academic results. However, this is just my personal experience.