Why is it so hard to find good people to be friends with these days?

It seems that you think you know a person and think they are trustworthy and a good person but then you find out otherwise.





Where do I find good people to be friends with? I don't want these dysfunctional relationships anymore.

Why is it so hard to find good people to be friends with these days?
You're so right. The same exact thing happens to me. Perhaps we should be friends!





I spend so much time and energy in friendships, for years, and all of a sudden, I find I have only wasted time; Then I need to have new friends. I'm so tired of trying so hard to make new friends.





When you find the answer to your question, let me know. I'm too old and tired for all the dysfunction.
Reply:sometimes I think all my friendships are dysfunctional
Reply:I think we are presently living in a world where people do not trust each other. And that is why good friends are hard to find.
Reply:Because every person makes decisions based solely on their benefit in the end. Basically using you for their needs.
Reply:Not surprising that the offspring of drugheads and the most shallow generation in a hundred years would be asking questions like this one.
Reply:It depends on what you are sharing with people. All people might be tempted at times to tell others that they think are trustworthy something you have shared with them. They might not mean harm, but harm can come anyway.





The way I look at it, if there is something you know about yourself, that you do not want anyone to find out about for whatever reason, you just don't tell anyone. No matter if it's your trusted best friend in the world or the stranger on the corner. Once you are comfortable with sharing whatever it is no matter the outcome, go ahead and tell someone.





And this is not because you don't trust anyone, but because you know the very nature of people to open their mouths at the very wrong time. I think we all have let slip things without thinking.





Of course there are fakers out there...ones that pretend to be friends and then just aren't after all...in time you will learn to spot them a mile away..life is about learning :)
Reply:i know what u mean ,and ur right . as for me i have nice friends they are Christians (my best frens) and we get along well , they have my back . but i meet potential friends at times , but they always act nice at first then afterwards they show their true personality .





in life people change even those who u thought would have ur back will stab u in the back because thats life , thats how people can get corrupted.





my advice to u is choose ur friends wisely , u cant afford to get a back stabber as a friend, but becareful some people just want friends for benefits, and don't trust anyone always be open for the unexpected.





you can go on the net , sometimes they are some really true people there , you can go to church , jus nice places where positive people are . you need a friend who will encourage and u and have ur back , thats all , good luck !! and if u have any questions just message me
Reply:A great person is one who does not judge the other person no matter what rubbish she has been hearing about this person. Here it means that you work on this friendship even though that person is fierce and cold towards you. It shows that you are a real friend and one who is ready to offer a friendship without expecting friendship back. If you can do that then you are a friend to everyone including your enemies.





People nowadays are selfish, materialistic, money minded, stereotyping others, untrustworthy, discriminatory and the list goes on. Even friendship comes with conditions. That is why there is no genuine friendship. It is something like what you yourself expect. You expect your friendship to be responded with friendship and so in a way, your own friendship is shallow.
Reply:most people go into friendships to satisfy their own loneliness or need for friendship. In a true friendship, you have to care just as much for the other people as for yourself. this is what defines a friendship. many people are too selfish to keep friendships going.
Reply:Smart move.





Go to your Church or Synagogue. Stop looking in bars (if that's where you've been looking).





It's difficult.
Reply:everyone wants to be the agressor and control everyone else.





they feel better about themselves having only followers. I like being on the same level as my friends. which is hard to find these days.
Reply:no one can find any true relationship now, no more, people wear masks all of the time and you will never be able to take them off, i might sound depressing but it's a fact...





if you're able to take off the mask and you knew it's the one, then you'll get a very successful relationship...





otherwise forget it but keep the fine line...
Reply:U dnt... i had a friend she thought she knew me so well she thought she knew everything about me weve been best friends for 4 yrs and have known each otha for 7 yrs and well basically i realised now that what ahe expects me to b and act like is so not who i am and ditto for her... u can never know a person that well just look out u might b lucky....
Reply:Blame our culture... or lack thereof.





Honestly, any civilization that glorifies entertainers and thugs over nerdy smart kids who become researchers, doctors and scientists someday has a grim future.





You will find better friends in college. In college, maturity is forced upon people. It's a lot more professional, resulting in a lot more down to earth people. It's not guaranteed, but the ratio of good people to bad people is a lot higher, so your chances are better.
Reply:no offence intended, i think its a reflection of your own personality





"tell me who your friends are, ill tell you who you are"





i think its all about attraction, like attracts like





i had the exact same problem last year when realizing all my "friends" were a bunch of jackasses to say the least.





i cut all ties, and began working on my self and really befriending and loving myself, then the rest sort of fell into place with time.. it took effort but was worth it.
Reply:I believe that people are, by nature, stupid. We can't help it. All we know how to do is what someone has taught us to do. Finding good friends is a tough task. Keep looking...there are good people in the world, you just have to look harder now than you used to.